sorgin
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Post by sorgin on Nov 2, 2021 10:48:44 GMT
Hello everyone. I am in the process of finding for the first time a therapist. I'll do it when I finally move on to my new job and location, which is about to happen in the next weeks. My new job will be more social, lots of young co-workers and talking with clients. I think it is far better than isolating myself working in manufacturing. The pay this time isn't particularly good lets say, so I don't want to be jumping from one therapist to another until I find a good well versed one on AT (I am FA). I am also afraid of losing faith and giving it up if I don't find the right one and afraid of not knowing whether I have to be patient and keep waiting or leave because the treatment isn't working.
Surprisingly none around my area, and almost none in the entire country portray themselves as specialists in AT. They don't even mention it. I guess it has to do with the fact that the general public ignores AT so they are not looking specifically for it but instead due to outcomes and symptoms of attachment issues. Consequently all psychologists advertise themselves as "self-worth, self-love, anxiety, conflict solving, self-steem therapists or similar stuff" which is very vague to figure out whether they are familiar with AT or not.
What I am planning to do is to call them and ask whether they are familiar with AT, some inevitably will say yes even if they are not specialists. In the end it is a business, a much more human and altruistic business than others but a business after all.
I don't want neither to be hyper focused on analysing nor have blind faith on them. Knowing for sure that they are specialists on AT and they are doing things as they are supposed to do will be enough for me.
Plenty of you are or have been on therapy and some are therapists yourselves. I would love to hear any tip from you.
Thanks in advance.
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Post by anne12 on Nov 2, 2021 11:05:44 GMT
Where do you live ?
If you are fa I would def find one who is also a somatic practisioner and an attatchment therapist among other things
A lot of therapists in my country do SE attatchment therapy trauma work
You can always find a practisioner who gives online therapy - even if you dont live in the same country
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sorgin
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Post by sorgin on Nov 2, 2021 11:18:17 GMT
Pamplona, mid-northern Spain.
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Post by anne12 on Nov 2, 2021 11:33:18 GMT
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Post by sorgin on Nov 2, 2021 11:33:33 GMT
Thanks Anne, I will keep it in mind. I will also have a look at SE therapy as I am currently learning more general stuff about AT and FA and I haven't dug yet into it. I am ADHDer as well, just one thing more I have to learn about.
I highly appreciate the pdf with the contacts, and there is even one in my country. My preferences are in this order: my native language and face to face, my native language online and finally English as I even struggle to talk about feelings in Spanish haha.
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Post by anne12 on Nov 2, 2021 11:58:17 GMT
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Post by krolle on Nov 2, 2021 12:58:40 GMT
Thankyou for the information anne12I have been to Pamplona sorgin for the bull run, once was enough for me lol. I used to live In Madrid for about a year. And I can speak Spanish if you ever want to talk it. Though it's been a number of years so I'm a little rusty. Hope you are doing well. |
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Post by sorgin on Nov 2, 2021 13:29:57 GMT
Thanks again Anne. I find the thread about ADHD extremely interesting. I was overlooking the scope of ADHD until a couple weeks just thinking it was all about being absent minded and little more. Literally zero interest in learning about psychology until the end of this summer. At first when I read attached by Amir Levine in less than 24 hours I said "well, it's pretty clear, no doubt, confirmed, diagnosed!, you're avoidant" but then suddenly realized that I had being anxious while dating the last couple girls so I learnt more and got to the point where I told myself "you are FA leaning DA". And yeah, I match both avoidant and anxious tendencies while in a relationship but I miss so many things asociated with FA that make me think that I am totally clueless about what I really am, am I just one attachment style plus ADHD that make me think I am FA?, am I a true FA plus ADHD? . I am recently so confused about myself, way too much new knowledge to learn, a knowledge I am not familiar with. Being highly skeptikal, quite nihilist, cinical and mistrusting of not-pure sciences doesn't help at all. That's why I really need to know that I am sitting down in front of a master of AT/ADHD/trauma or whatever. Otherwise I will never trust them, but I am trying to change.
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Post by sorgin on Nov 2, 2021 14:05:46 GMT
Thankyou for the information anne12I have been to Pamplona sorgin for the bull run, once was enough for me lol. I used to live In Madrid for about a year. And I can speak Spanish if you ever want to talk it. Though it's been a number of years so I'm a little rusty. Hope you are doing well. Wow, everyone has been running the bulls here. I hope you enjoyed your stay in Spain out of the party culture which is very foreigner to me I have to say haha. I am doing well so far. I keep track of your progress in your thread but I don't participate as I have nothing to say compared to what it is said by other master members. I am as well a bit lazy to write in English. I have to admit that one big reason I keep track of your posts is because I identify myself with you in so many ways that somehow I got to believe that if you heal I can heal too. A bit selfish I guess but also the more info you share about your life and healing process the more empathetic I feel for you even if I don't personally know you. I also hope you're doing well buddy, I know how you feel right know. |
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Post by tnr9 on Nov 2, 2021 14:41:50 GMT
I highly recommend SE. I am seeing an SE therapist….she is very well versed in AT….but we tend not to speak in terms of attachment…but more about trauma and the effect of that on my thinking and behaviors. I would say that through SE therapy…I have become more aware of my physical body and where I end and another person begins. This “space” awareness has helped me to take things less personally.
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