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Post by Deleted on Nov 11, 2021 4:13:46 GMT
Sounds about right. I think the problem is a lot of it is subconscious. So self awareness is a start. But it's a conscious attempt to control a subconscious problem. Which just doesn't work in my opinion. It's like there are only so much reserves of will power before it gets swamped by the enormous force of the subconscious. I believe that Thais gibson has it at least partially right when she says the way to interact with the subconscious is through repetition and emotion. But I have found that hard to work practically with. Reprogramming is right... the nervous system needs to be reconditioned. I know it sounds hard to believe it can change, but personally I kept researching and forcing myself to confront my feelings when triggered, be patient, connect to myself, then more researching, and more, and one day after thinking I must be making no progress because I got super triggered by my ex breaking up with me yet again, it all suddenly clicked. Totally. For good! So keep trying  yep the drops definitely fill the bucket. Every effort counts. |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 11, 2021 6:23:30 GMT
krolle I partially followed your story. At least you are here, talking about it and being very self-aware, honest and committed to the work! Many people just go on and on breaking other people's hearts and breaking their own and start all over again. This guy I dated was self-aware as well, we often talked about our own fears about the relationship, so I kind of thought we would somehow sort things out even in case of deactivation from his or from my side. But I guess it is muuuch more than self-awareness, it's dedication, self-control, re-programming. It's like you just try to keep things under control but they reach a point where it is no longer tolerable and you just do not want to deal with your own emotions, let alone with the emotion of another person. At least it was like that, in my strong FA days. I cannot even imagine what it is like for a DA. Sounds about right. I think the problem is a lot of it is subconscious. So self awareness is a start. But it's a conscious attempt to control a subconscious problem. Which just doesn't work in my opinion. It's like there are only so much reserves of will power before it gets swamped by the enormous force of the subconscious. I believe that Thais gibson has it at least partially right when she says the way to interact with the subconscious is through repetition and emotion. But I have found that hard to work practically with. Well, being a personal trainer you know about the necessity of creating conscious awareness of movement patterns, and that it takes repetition and training to correct the movement patterns in the body to create better functionality. People often move in dysfunctional ways because of unconscious/subconscious adaptations. In order to train well, those have to be corrected through coaching/training. the continuum is Unconscious dysfunctional movement > conscious dysfunctional movement> conscious correction > unconscious correction That really does work for the body and the mind. The nervous system adapts. It takes repetition and conscious effort. |
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