Yes, I remember your story
Helsbells Loosing relatives, partners etc. to death can cause shock trauma. It’s the ultimate goodbye (at least here on Earth)
There’s something called a broken heart syndrome.
In Japan, it has been found that grief can change the shape of the heart, as the heart actually collapses physically.
It is called the vase heart.
It looks like a vase and looks like a drop falling down. Narrow at the top and thicker at the bottom.
This has been proven on the X-ray images of people who were affected by deep grief.
The change of the heart is called takotsubo, the name comes from the Chinese jar/vase which the heart resembles when it gets this “disease” which is often triggered by deep heartache.
Its supposed to affect females and post menoposal females more than males
jebkinnisonforum.com/post/43348/jebkinnisonforum.com/post/43350/Grief and losses can be trauma and can get stuck in our nervous system.
Grief can affect our lungs.
If that exchange is blocked emotionally by grief and sadness, it affects the smooth action of the lungs. When someone is sad, they hold their breath and oxygen is decreased. The emotional blockage of not letting go and the symptom of grief affects the receiving and letting go action of the lungs.
Max Storm - breathing grief -
youtu.be/4Lb5L-VEm34He talks about how people can confuse anxiaty attacks with unprossed grief.
I have made a thread about grief, loss, death etc.
- as death and grief is also such a taboo in a lot of sociaties including my own where people just expect you (and maybe yourself);to get over your losses in a “split second” ..…
Also a lot of people don’t know what to say to or how to be with you when you are grieving.
We can’t fix grief, it has to be felt …
The process for each person is different and our grieving process is not linear…
It would be great if you can find some comfort with your new boyfriend. We all - when we reach a certain age - have had experiences with former partners, families, we have experienced death and losses etc. That’s also something that a new partner has to accept and live with…
I think that it is so beautyfull that you have already experienced real love with your ex partner, who passed away.
I like this quote/ saying: “SORROW/grief is love that has become homeless”
jebkinnisonforum.com/thread/2526/death-grief-loss-attatchmentstyles-ptsdTheres this book about a woman who lost her partner - maybe it can be helpful for you to read ?
www.amazon.co.uk/Heartbreak-Happiness-Intimate-Diary-Healing/Hugs ❤️