How to show up?

Healthy way to show support is lean back. Don't make assumptions about what's going on, don't be hypervigilant to them deactivating, just focus on yourself and live your life. If they come back, you can ask how everything is going and how they're doing. Or if they proactively bring up the issue they are facing or communicate more about things being rough, that's when you ask for more specifics or say you can always talk to me when something is wrong, I'm here to listen. Or whatever. But think about how you'd be with a normal friend. It's co-dependent to try to mind read if other adults are not properly communicating with you. I've always found that if you need to *go out of your way* to reach out after a while and bring it all up, the person is not actually ready to receive help or necessarily do anything about their situation. That doesn't mean don't be there for your friends, but it does mean having good boundaries to lead with to respectfully support them. If someone doesn't want to open up to help, don't assume anything and don't force them.