Hi and welcome new people

And even if aware may not know how to change, or too painful to do so..
So they remain stuck I guess.

You seem to be having a little trouble getting unstuck yourself, and I say that based on your posts.  You are a it resistant to taking actions that are recommended to you, such as blocking social media, saying you aren't strong enough yet. Perhaps it would be more appropriate to examine and comment on your own stuckness, your own insecure predicament, rather than chime in on someone else's? It's a tendency of AP posters to focus on the woeful condition of others while minimizing and covering their own dysfunction.  

Your comment illustrates a worthy point to mention:
Improve your own condition and dysfunction, that's your responsibility, and stop focusing on the ex. 

It should be noted, if an AP wants to have a lasting relationship with healthy intimacy, this problem needs to be eliminated first and it's a tall order, just like it's a tall order for an avoidant to overcome their blocks to relationship. This issue is a full 50 percent of the reason that these relationships break down, become miserable, or end entirely.

Respectfully, how do you know I a not trying and in the process to get unstuck myself..because I am and tho I have relapse days I am doing pretty good.  I am not resistant to anything. Minimal posts here does not define me or what you would know about me.   But we both had our own Dysfunction and Woefulness.

Not contacting him is a huge success on my part, and not obsessing over it or making a plan or a goal to do so.
Maybe in the day I analyze or learn about another style of attachment but you can bet in between that time, and at night I am thinking about myself and my contributions to how I make another person feel.   

Some like myself may use this as an outlet for those feelings to get out and it has been helpful

And FWIW this comment (OP and follow ups) is on an avoidant thread....I do believe it can apply to anxious as well. But that is not where this post landed so that is why I am commenting here.

This is not the only thread I am reading and internalizing..just bc you dont see me commenting there. 

This comment is intended for the general group of new members, and it so happens that your comment illustrated a worthy point.  Not least because the AP mode of relating is common in FA, particularly anxious leaning FA.  There are also Avoidant leaning FA, and content here will reflect things to know about that style of FA as well.

If you read through the FA and DA forums both, you will see a lot of contribution from long standing members in various stages of personal development working through their own style, AP, FA, and DA all, continuously bringing the focus back to self.  There is a place for discovering other attachment styles, obviously! And, the established community here also finds it very important to turn discussion to the issues in the self, as part of the process.  

People here come to vent and learn about their partners, in hardship or after a breakup.  It's not as though people come to explore FA for curiosity outside of the dynamic they shared with one.  Or, less frequently but very importantly, be cause they are FA themselves and want to understand themselves.  In order to be most constructive and helpful as a community, we mostly focus on self-care and self responsibility.  In light of that, a welcome post to newcomers can reasonably include that perspective, even though it may be uncomfortable for some to mention.

That said, good for you for developing awareness about your own contributions to the AP/FA dynamic! They don't operate in a vacuum, of course.  And it's fantastic that you are growing as you participate here.  That's what the general hope of the community is, for all.