Languishing

Languishing. It is a concept that is being talked about a lot at the moment. It can be translated into a kind of sadness and is the feeling many of us are left with after our nervous systems have been on constant overwork for almost two years while caresses, hugs and closeness with other people have been on hold.
Skin hunger is what experts call it and it goes much deeper than the touch itself. It is not a good combination. Many of us are left with a feeling of restlessness, immense fatigue and even a kind of mild depression that only shows up right here, where we gradually return to a normalcy and get enough peace to feel what overload our nervous system really has been through.
This is where oxytocin comes into the picture. Oxytocin is the brain's natural nerve pill and essential for our sense of well-being. It is vital to our survival and attachment, and new mothers can spell oxytocin.
When we lack oxytocin, we feel isolated and sad, and it may make good sense to look at what benefits oxytocin production to create better balance. Oxytocin is released when we hug someone we care about. It can also be promoted when we pet a pet (just look at how many have acquired a pet in the last two years) or otherwise have close, positive contact. In addition to the feeling of joy, oxytocin also has the calming effect on the body that many of us have lacked in the last few years.

A daily oxytocin shower A US study has shown that participants felt much more secure, confident, calm and socially capable after inhaling oxytocin.
Their empathy also increased. In fact, the researchers behind a daily oxytocin shower recommended, not least when we are in deficit and have a nervous system working overtime.

Theres a special series of products called Uka. With them you can literally bathe in oxytocin. In addition to the fact that the very feeling of touch, when you spend a few minutes massaging the products into the skin or bathing in them, can have a beneficial effect on body and soul, certain scents have been shown to further enhance this feeling. And oh, what scents, imagine the finest blend of sensual ylang ylang, a touch of black pepper, a touch of sweet mandarin and a twist of sour yuzu. These products, which are aptly named Hug (they truly also feel like a hug to the skin) have been my own little daily oxytocin ritual for the last few years, where closeness and hugs have been reserved for the few. It has been many of yours too, but maybe you have never heard of them before or have forgotten what a good feeling they can give you. On a gray rainy day like today, they might as well do something good for you whether you feel decidedly sad or just a little (rainy) tired. And otherwise you will definitely be happy to have them on Monday morning. And Tuesday, Wednesday…

Practise finding pleasure in your daily life. It is much more important for women to make sure to get pleasure than it is for men. The feminine is process oriented while the masculine is goal oriented

Play with the senses exersice: (all attatchmentstyles)

This is an effective way to get into the precent!
It can also train your sensuality, and it's so valuable in your love life!

The sense of sight:
· Close your eyes and put your hands over your eyes for a moment. Feel the eyes and the little muscles around the eyes
· Remove hands and open your eyes slowly
· Let your eyes look gently wherever they want. Do not stare, but let the visual impressions come to you
· Just notice, that you are letting your eyes look, wherever they want
· Use "looking gently" in your everyday life!

Hearing:
· Notice the sounds around you without straining you. Let the sounds come to
you
· Just "watch" the sounds. You should not analyze, what they are or why, or if you
like them or not
· What do you notice right now inside you?

Taste:
· Use your attention when you eat and drink (also, yes, especially your
snacks, sweets, snacks, and beverages)
· Do not do anything when you have something in your mouth! So no TV, PC or
reading. Also try to eat in between without talking
· Notice what you have in your mouth. How does it feel in the mouth and with
tongue. How are you biting? How does it taste?

The sense of smell:
· Stitch your nose in everything around you and smell. What does it smell like?
· The world is rich in fragrances. Examine them and do not limit yourself to assess,
what you like and do not like. Smell to yourself, others and everything around you ...

The sense of touch:
· Examine everything around you: How does this feel when I touch it? Is it
soft, hard, hot, cold, clumsy, sticky etc.
· How does it feel on different parts of the body: the hands, lips and perhaps other areas of your body?
· Also notice the air against your skin, for example the face and perhaps the arms

How to producere more oxytocin

Touch yourself with a feather
Selfhug
Hugging a tree
(Shooting guns)
Hugging your friends / your partner / your kids
Walking
Laughing
Petting an animal
Getting pedicures and manicures
Wear cashmere on your naked body
Boodys homewear/night wear bamboo collection
Wearing silk
www.holisticsilk.com/products
Getting a massage
Giving gifts
Sharing a meal
Hot tub
Shower
Sipping hot tea
Riding a roller coaster
Paragliding / jumping out of an airplane
Seeing an emotionel (teardripping) movie
Drybrush your skin
Guasha
Singing
Say the word "love"
Social media
Dancing with a partner or with yourself
Give what you want to RECIEVE
Watching a movie where people are making tender love with eachother
Roll yourself into a blanket like a burrito

Seeing an emotionel (teardripping) movie
Drybrush your skin m.youtube.com/watch?v=-WbGIQzovGs&t=71s
youtu.be/pPA6_XxmAHc
Dry bruch your face m.youtube.com/watch?v=7eGnjM7ElcE&t=9s
youtu.be/jss1MHiiGu8
Selfcare massage for women - youtu.be/-Sf7CknsAZo
Use a scalp brush - youtu.be/aR2tMp7NXcY
Guasha
Singing
Say the word "love"
Social media
Dancing with a partner or with yourself
Give what you want to RECIEVE
Watching a movie where people are making tender love with eachother
Sleep on bamboo sheets or silk sheets
Sleep with a holistic silk pillow case - youtu.be/13I72lotZm0
Uka - youtu.be/Qd5de3TAjt0
Giving yourself a breast massage - youtu.be/hSQKujQ_r5g
Heat a risebag and put it on your body,
Heat a waterbottle and use it in bed / holistic silk with lavender - www.holisticsilk.com/Silk-Velvet-Hot-Water-Bottle
Use neuroaffective touch pillows - youtu.be/YEaE-2GSt90
10 min sexy self practise m.youtube.com/watch?v=roNOrGCDw6s
Soft head massage with different tools m.youtube.com/watch?v=0c-ockmOxFQ
Hot stone massage
youtu.be/_HQLsfZh5js - Hot Oil self massage
How to massage your feet - youtu.be/NoVz7AvLybg
Sea salt foot bath
Holistic silk facemask
Footmassage
Give yourself a fasical massage
youtu.be/nbKSrop818c
Getting a hair cut

Naked carpet wiggles
Weighted blanket
Lay under a futon mattress
Burrito roll yourself into a blanket
Head scratcher
Foam roller
Warm laundry - Cuddle up next to, or burrow under
Put fluffy blanket in dryer
Electrical heating pad
Hot water bottle
Rice in a sock (warm in microwave)
Acupressure mat
Vibrate your whole body with a vibrator
Laying in the grass feeling the earth holding you
Leaning against or hugging a tree
Touch your body with intention and love while bathing
Salt or sugar scrub in the shower
Acupressure ring
Compression socks
Roll tennis ball under feet
Scratchy towels
Heated eye masks
A stone that feels good in your hand
Build a nest in a tight space
Orbeez (water beads)
Hair claw clips
Feathers / feather duster
Fur (faux or otherwise)
Lint brush
Back scratcher

Attending to other senses:

Play soothing music, nature sounds or ambient noise
Warm something that smells comforting to you (cinnamon, a candle you like, a dryer sheet, etc)
Dim the lighting - no sharp or bright lights
Make a cozy nook in your living room or bedroom:

You can set up a nest, a basket of feelie objects, put up a hammock or build a pillow fort. Your nook is for you... Use it to support your touch needs. When you have a spot already

Ways to be connected with a partner, a date, a cuddle buddy you can’t be near:

Send pictures of you touching your own body (sexy or not)
Send pictures of what you’re snuggling up with
Read to one another as you cuddle up on video chat
One person instructs the other on how to touch their own body
Sing to one another
Experiment with the same kinds of touch at the same time


ect.

Skin hunger tips

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