FA Ex, cut off connection forever

I've been here before a while ago, just popped back on for a look. I test 80% secure/10% avoidant/10% anxious on the Thais Gibson PDS attachment test, Diane Poole Heller - Secure as well, also tested secure on the Psychology today test. I personally have dated two F-As in the past 6 years, and a more secure girl. My last relationship was with a F-A leaning D-A (she did the Thais Gibson test), for one year. She was remotely interested in learning about psychology, and stereotypically ended things, even though I was always supportive and mindful around triggers. Wont go into too many details, it's irrelevant, it was a reasonable relationship, I still care for her, and love her, wish her the best. I opened her communication up, and she thanked me for being respectul and mindful etc. Bottom line is, I am not codependent and I will not be suckered into someone's dependency patterns! That was the bottom line! She picked up on this and pulled away. So....hopefully she learns sooner rather than later.
Years ago I had a brief 2.5 month relationship with the other F-A, she was suffering from CPTSD, I had never EVER seen anything like it in my life, and there were excuses around health, and a bit of a push-pull after the fact, which actually started my journey learning about narcissistic abuse patterning and CPTSD and the 4F trauma/stress responses and how so many decisions we make as humans are from that nervous system response!

So "yes" a secure attached individual can be "put off balance" so to speak, the intermittent reinforcement from that F-A (CPTSD) g/f actually really hurt after the fact and was starting to push me towards anxious tendencies! First time I had seen it in my life at age 40! But I learnt from it and realised what it was, and made sure I turned that into a positive! I actually am friends with that girl and we talk and she is actively working on herself from my help years ago. She couldn't do it initially, but 2 years later she is finally looking into it after another failed relationship after me! I am happy for her! (I actually garnered advice from this forum around that approach etc)

I generally take quite a few months to heal after a relationship of a year or so. I have never ever jumped from one relationship to another in my life, I make sure I have fully worked through that loss and the emotions before moving on.  

Hope this helps