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Post by elizabeth on Jun 29, 2022 15:47:50 GMT
I just need a place to vent real quick. My ex who we had an amazing relationship with split with her new BF. We haven't been together in 6 months. She reached out, so after talking back and forth I offered "platonically" to check out this new art exhibit. She is already seeing someone and reconnected with someone from 3 years ago. I was patient, worked hard on myself, and feel skipped over. She met her ex after me in 3 weeks, then the new guy in 2 weeks. This one burns. I knew she was an FA and was willing to be patient with everything I am learning in PDS courses. This is just a huge curveball to me. are you sure a rekindling of a romantic relationship with this woman is really what you want? why? and what if she doesnt want the same? what if she is not capable of giving you the complete love you deserve? have you thought about what is best for you? are you working hard on yourself for her, or for yourself? sorry, i always end up asking a ton of questions.. |
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Post by ctlguy260 on Jun 29, 2022 23:42:55 GMT
I just need a place to vent real quick. My ex who we had an amazing relationship with split with her new BF. We haven't been together in 6 months. She reached out, so after talking back and forth I offered "platonically" to check out this new art exhibit. She is already seeing someone and reconnected with someone from 3 years ago. I was patient, worked hard on myself, and feel skipped over. She met her ex after me in 3 weeks, then the new guy in 2 weeks. This one burns. I knew she was an FA and was willing to be patient with everything I am learning in PDS courses. This is just a huge curveball to me. are you sure a rekindling of a romantic relationship with this woman is really what you want? why? and what if she doesnt want the same? what if she is not capable of giving you the complete love you deserve? have you thought about what is best for you? are you working hard on yourself for her, or for yourself? sorry, i always end up asking a ton of questions.. We are not capable of having anything romantic at all and I even said I wouldn't consider that even if she wanted to. I have enough awareness to know if that happened history would repeat itself. She said she would be happy to be friends, so I responded stating maybe its best to communicate expectations, boundaries, etc. I am am content but she hasnt responded so I am actually questioning whether she could be friends now. I talked to my therapist today who has deep knowledge of our relationship. After I discussed this scenario, she said "she is terrified of her developing feelings again for me". I get her avoiding as a vibe. The guy she dated and went to now are so not her type and my ex said "you loved me and me children more than any man ever has". That is the reason she totally started pulling away and ended the relationship yes kept wanting to communicate. It was SO confusing. Now only if its all out of her system I could be friends, but if I get the vibe its not then I wont. My work has been for me, but all my work is things I discovered from our relationship which is a positive. I am close to living my best life and dating again some anyway. |
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