Post by kailani on Sept 8, 2022 3:06:45 GMT
Hi! I was asking for some input or experience. I am not even sure if my ex was DA or FA..only because he seemed pretty avoidant the last breakup. We had no contact for 8 months after 2 years, as he needed to ‘get better bc he couldn’t do this anymore.”
I really was zero contact except once -accidentally- we are on each other media , but I saw him in the vicinty where I was supposed to go on the map app, got frustrated, and shut my phone off, and in that process it screen shot instead. Of course letting him know. This was 3 months ago. At the time, He asked why, I told him kind of, but never got into the feeling part (that I was really upset that we were strangers now and angrily shut my phone off when that happened.
So yesterday he contacted me out of the blue, and asked to be honest, why did I really do that. I asked him why he is asking me that if I told him. He said please be honest, it is just odd it took you so long to type and only typed 5 words. He asked me what I really was trying to say. I told him the version ‘back then I was upset about this turning into us as strangers” when it accidentally did it as I was shutting it off.
He was very responsive to my replies, answering right away. Oddly, when I asked him why he thinks I did that..He said that maybe to post on another story?!?! THis made no sense and I would never do things like that. He said he was just always wondering why, and I said yes lots of things I wonder. He asked if there were things I didn’t undertstasnd, and I said , lots and he said I coujld ask him. I declined but said another day would be better.
I also strangely ran in to him today, passed him by. He looked surprised, I was and I avoided him.WE made strong eye contact.
I know the drill..move on. But I am wondering why he would contact me for THAT yesterday. I thought he did not give on iota about me or thought about me this whole time. Is that normal to reach out w an odd subject? Where would he get that I would do something like that to him (as silly as it and this all is). Is this his underlying script of not trusting me (He created a story at breakup that also made no sense/skewed view of events)
Thanksf or the feedback. I am just curious.. I Should addd we were really good friends before our dating. I do miss my friendship w him terribly, and don’t know how to proceed
I really was zero contact except once -accidentally- we are on each other media , but I saw him in the vicinty where I was supposed to go on the map app, got frustrated, and shut my phone off, and in that process it screen shot instead. Of course letting him know. This was 3 months ago. At the time, He asked why, I told him kind of, but never got into the feeling part (that I was really upset that we were strangers now and angrily shut my phone off when that happened.
So yesterday he contacted me out of the blue, and asked to be honest, why did I really do that. I asked him why he is asking me that if I told him. He said please be honest, it is just odd it took you so long to type and only typed 5 words. He asked me what I really was trying to say. I told him the version ‘back then I was upset about this turning into us as strangers” when it accidentally did it as I was shutting it off.
He was very responsive to my replies, answering right away. Oddly, when I asked him why he thinks I did that..He said that maybe to post on another story?!?! THis made no sense and I would never do things like that. He said he was just always wondering why, and I said yes lots of things I wonder. He asked if there were things I didn’t undertstasnd, and I said , lots and he said I coujld ask him. I declined but said another day would be better.
I also strangely ran in to him today, passed him by. He looked surprised, I was and I avoided him.WE made strong eye contact.
I know the drill..move on. But I am wondering why he would contact me for THAT yesterday. I thought he did not give on iota about me or thought about me this whole time. Is that normal to reach out w an odd subject? Where would he get that I would do something like that to him (as silly as it and this all is). Is this his underlying script of not trusting me (He created a story at breakup that also made no sense/skewed view of events)
Thanksf or the feedback. I am just curious.. I Should addd we were really good friends before our dating. I do miss my friendship w him terribly, and don’t know how to proceed