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Post by tnr9 on Jan 24, 2023 1:55:29 GMT
I knew about attachment theory for decades….but I was not in a space to even do anything with that information until my low serotonin was addressed.
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Post by dlans1 on Jan 24, 2023 9:35:56 GMT
Thank you so much for the discussion you all had here, and for the advice as well, of course! After having a bit of discussion "with myself," I decided to set a deadline of 4-5 months for dating FA and seeing how the dynamic goes. If the dynamic is negative (too much hard work, suffering emotionally, not meeting my needs etc) during this time, I'll quit and go seek someone else. (Or maybe I'll find someone better by chance before the deadline, who knows?) Meanwhile, I'm working on my AP even more. It's currently leaning towards being secure after six months of work, so I'm making progress and need to continue. I have low expectations of this working out with my romantic interest, but there's always hope! You never know if you don't try. Especially because she's my first FA, new experience ahead! I'll keep you posted here. If not, well, probably I'm dead  |
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Post by tnr9 on Jan 24, 2023 14:00:59 GMT
Thank you so much for the discussion you all had here, and for the advice as well, of course! After having a bit of discussion "with myself," I decided to set a deadline of 4-5 months for dating FA and seeing how the dynamic goes. If the dynamic is negative (too much hard work, suffering emotionally, not meeting my needs etc) during this time, I'll quit and go seek someone else. (Or maybe I'll find someone better by chance before the deadline, who knows?) Meanwhile, I'm working on my AP even more. It's currently leaning towards being secure after six months of work, so I'm making progress and need to continue. I have low expectations of this working out with my romantic interest, but there's always hope! You never know if you don't try. Especially because she's my first FA, new experience ahead! I'll keep you posted here. If not, well, probably I'm dead I find that the road to secure is not a straight line….it is progress…then a new trigger to work on….progress then a bit of regression….just make sure your focus is healing your childhood wounds and not simply your triggers with your current partner. Good luck. |
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