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Post by mrob on Apr 12, 2023 14:44:40 GMT
You do realise the “cookie cutter advice” is from ( I can only speak for myself) my own experience. I can’t believe how entirely predictable people (including myself) are. My experience is all I have, as does anyone else here. Take what you like and leave the rest.
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Post by tnr9 on Apr 12, 2023 14:51:31 GMT
bluex…Everyone is entitled to an opinion. The only aspect of your lengthy comment I agree with is to seek therapy for your own attachment wounding. All of us long time contributors have stated that individual therapy is the best course forward, even if the relationship does not work out.
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Post by tnr9 on Apr 12, 2023 14:54:30 GMT
You do realise the “cookie cutter advice” is from ( I can only speak for myself) my own experience. I can’t believe how entirely predictable people (including myself) are. My experience is all I have, as does anyone else here. Take what you like and leave the rest. …..that is all anyone…including the experts can speak from….and if bluex has an issue with the perspectives and advice provided by the long time contributors….this may not be a good fit as far as forums go. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2023 17:31:38 GMT
Opinions may differ and that's always permitted by the forum owner, but passive aggressively criticizing forum members in the manner demonstrated here has not gone over well in the past.
That said, if two people enjoying a relationship where both parties have demonstrated both commitment and capacity to work through inevitable conflict inherent in any relationship is unhealthy, well then I'm busted, I'm in an unhealthy relationship chasing highs.
Our most recent conflict involved communication and we decided jointly to make a practice of adhering to certain standards, each committing to work on our own side of the dialog. The goal is to be able to provide empathy and support even while disagreeing, even while under significant stress from obstacles presenting from outside the relationship. We both agree wholeheartedly that our relationship is the catalyst for noticeable growth and healing on both sides.
We are also looking forward to a diving vacation as soon as our schedules allow.
It doesn't feel unhealthy, but anyone is free of course to form their own opinions on tbe matter.
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