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Post by nraza02 on Aug 8, 2023 17:35:46 GMT
So i was curious whether the relationship with father has a major role in deciding your attachment style or mother because mostly the word primary caregiver is used but what if the child had a great relationship with the mother but not with the father.
Also since father's relationship with the daughter and mother's relationship with the son has great importance in deciding who we chose as our partners so does that also play some part in determining what your attachment style is?
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Post by anne12 on Aug 8, 2023 18:08:43 GMT
I dont have an answer but I have once made these threads jebkinnisonforum.com/thread/3426/re-mothering-incl-healing-femininejebkinnisonforum.com/thread/3425/re-fathering-incl-healing-masculinejebkinnisonforum.com/thread/1643/type-father-mother-grown-ectjebkinnisonforum.com/post/30301/ What type of woman would make a good partner? Here’s the bottom line: Look for a woman who can receive her mother’s love. If she has remained trusting and vulnerable to her mother’s love, if she delights in receiving her mother’s tenderness and care, she will receive similarly from you. Your relationship will also be strengthened if her mother and father—whether they stayed together or not—demonstrated care and respect for one another. Now let’s turn the tables. What type of man would make a good partner? Here’s the bottom line: Look for a man who reveres his father. If he credits his father for being his role model, guiding him through life’s challenges, you’re in good hands. A man who admires his father often wants to emulate what he admires most in him. Choose a man who feels loved and supported by both parents, yet sees himself as being a bit more aligned with his father. If he was his mother’s emotional partner, and was distant with his father, don’t expect an easy road ahead. If he attempted to satisfy his mother’s unmet needs and supply her with what she felt she couldn’t get from her husband, proceed cautiously. This man is likely to have difficulty appreciating your needs. Fearing that you will want too much from him, the way his mother did, he is likely to put his guard up by shutting down physically or emotionally when he feels he’s getting too close to you. Our partner’s relationship with his or her parents can be a trusted indicator of how frustrating or fulfilling our relationship can be. If there’s one takeaway, it would be this: A solid bond with the same-sexed parent can be insurance that your relationship will endure. With this principle as your guiding light, you now hold an essential piece of the relationship puzzle and can be more prepared when it’s time to pick your life partner. If your date / partner haven't had a good relationship with one or both his/her parent's, ask if the person has tried to repair the brake in the bond irl or through therapy ect. It can also be done even if the person's parents are dead through different kinds of techniques. |
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Post by tnr9 on Aug 8, 2023 18:11:43 GMT
So i was curious whether the relationship with father has a major role in deciding your attachment style or mother because mostly the word primary caregiver is used but what if the child had a great relationship with the mother but not with the father. Also since father's relationship with the daughter and mother's relationship with the son has great importance in deciding who we chose as our partners so does that also play some part in determining what your attachment style is? I think either or both can play a role depending on the dynamics within the family unit. It can also.be influenced by siblings and other relatives…because “caregiver” can mean many things. |
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