Post by ajh2023 on Aug 18, 2023 18:09:56 GMT
Hi all,
I need to get to the bottom of this. When I’m not with my wife, I get really pissed off and irritated. When she’s with her friends on a social night, or hosting an event herself with her business, I get really jealous of those she’s with. This manifests into negative thought patterns towards her, and a feeling of wanting to get one over on her, make her jealous, flirt with other women.
I feel like I need to get used to not having her attention all of the time. I get so mad when she’s got a date in her diary coming up and get really passive/aggressive towards her. She goes out on a Friday night and tends to be hungover the next day so I treat it as being away from her even longer, as she’s not present when she’s recovering from alcohol that next day.
This has been present our whole 8 year relationship, but seems to have come to a head with us having a 3 year old. I just feel like we get no time together, even though I know we do, and I resent not being able to spend every waking moment with her, I know this is unhealthy but it’s now bordering on making me depressed, as I think what’s the point as I will always feel like this, nothing to look forward to, etc.
I get even worse about this during summer holidays - I’m a teacher and six weeks holidays gives me a lot of time to think, but also I have to find stuff for us to do during the day as she’s always at work.
Any advice you guys can give?
I need to get to the bottom of this. When I’m not with my wife, I get really pissed off and irritated. When she’s with her friends on a social night, or hosting an event herself with her business, I get really jealous of those she’s with. This manifests into negative thought patterns towards her, and a feeling of wanting to get one over on her, make her jealous, flirt with other women.
I feel like I need to get used to not having her attention all of the time. I get so mad when she’s got a date in her diary coming up and get really passive/aggressive towards her. She goes out on a Friday night and tends to be hungover the next day so I treat it as being away from her even longer, as she’s not present when she’s recovering from alcohol that next day.
This has been present our whole 8 year relationship, but seems to have come to a head with us having a 3 year old. I just feel like we get no time together, even though I know we do, and I resent not being able to spend every waking moment with her, I know this is unhealthy but it’s now bordering on making me depressed, as I think what’s the point as I will always feel like this, nothing to look forward to, etc.
I get even worse about this during summer holidays - I’m a teacher and six weeks holidays gives me a lot of time to think, but also I have to find stuff for us to do during the day as she’s always at work.
Any advice you guys can give?
