Empathy vs. Sympathy

I hear you. This post was not directed to any specific attachment style as all attachment styles do well to learn how to be more empathetic. It is just an observation of how the two words are defined. 

The article you posted supports what my post was talking about.

In the article Cognitive Empathy is described as "a useful skill, particularly in negotiations for example, or for managers. It enables you to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, but without necessarily engaging with their emotions. It does not, however, really fit with the definition of empathy as ‘feeling with’, being a much more rational and logical process."

This is an alternative way to define sympathy.

Empathy, it would seem, lends itself to a deeper understanding of others by not just understanding what someone feels but actually identifying personally with how that person might feel. Feeling another's feeling in your heart. Empathy is more likely to lead a person to positive, more intamte, less self serving  actions than is sympathy.

Like I said, it is a matter of semantics.