Lola
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Post by Lola on Feb 14, 2018 8:54:09 GMT
Hey! I’m new here. Think I’ve been here for less than 2 months on and off. Because of the wisdom that is here I can function much better in my daily life. I find it incredible that I went from not leaving the bed for days to hustling and achieving. Thank you all so much! If there is any way I can help you it is the least I can do 🌈
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Post by alpenglow on Feb 14, 2018 15:33:49 GMT
Great to hear, Lola!
What do you think helped you the most? What kind of work have you done on yourself in order to feel such a difference?
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Post by Lola on Feb 16, 2018 15:54:50 GMT
Great to hear, Lola! What do you think helped you the most? What kind of work have you done on yourself in order to feel such a difference? Hey Alpenglow, What helped the most is a new mindset I achieved to until now use. It's a blend of DA point of view, my point of view, a liiitttllee bit of AP point of view and exorcist priest point of view. I'm not sure how to verbalise this so excuse me if it's not as clear as I hoped it will be. I tried to fuse the opinions of all the important actors in play here and see that attachment disorder is not what I am, but what I have -> hence the exorcism part. I learnt to turn it off sometimes, but it takes practice. I also focus on myself and what I want a lot more than before. Even when I don't want space I get space for myself in order not to get too "high on loove". Basically, prevention methodology. I hope this helps |
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Feb 17, 2018 8:08:42 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2018 8:08:42 GMT
Great to hear, Lola! What do you think helped you the most? What kind of work have you done on yourself in order to feel such a difference? Hey Alpenglow, What helped the most is a new mindset I achieved to until now use. It's a blend of DA point of view, my point of view, a liiitttllee bit of AP point of view and exorcist priest point of view. I'm not sure how to verbalise this so excuse me if it's not as clear as I hoped it will be. I tried to fuse the opinions of all the important actors in play here and see that attachment disorder is not what I am, but what I have -> hence the exorcism part. I learnt to turn it off sometimes, but it takes practice. I also focus on myself and what I want a lot more than before. Even when I don't want space I get space for myself in order not to get too "high on loove". Basically, prevention methodology. I hope this helps I am so struggling with the exorcism part! I can’t tell if what I think is really me or just my attachment anxiety speaking. How do you do it? |
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Post by Lola on Feb 17, 2018 18:33:16 GMT
I am so struggling with the exorcism part! I can’t tell if what I think is really me or just my attachment anxiety speaking. How do you do it? I have reminders saying "this is not really you", "you are not actually that sad". It is strange, but it works. It's a little like lucid dreaming, takes time, but once you train yourself to ask "am I really me right now? Is this really who I am?" The answer EVERY SINGLE TIME when you're activated is HELLL NO If you ever struggle with this please do not hesitate to message me  |
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Feb 18, 2018 0:50:13 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Feb 18, 2018 0:50:13 GMT
Do we have a thread that discusses how to deactivate APs?
I believe I’m still very much activated, though passively. I realised today how stressful it must be for the other person If he knew just how much I think about him. It’s literally 24/7. the only time I don’t think about him is if I was talking to other people about vastly different things (and not discussing rships and what not). Is insane, but I don’t know how to switch it off.
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