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Post by Jaeger on Feb 16, 2018 14:46:10 GMT
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Post by Jaeger on Feb 16, 2018 15:06:03 GMT
Agreeing doesn't necessarily mean believing it and running your life under this premise. Many people are still hoping for "their one" to materialize. See, I could never live my life like that. If I truly believe something to be true, I live my life around that principle. It reminds me of an old Stephen Covey quote : "To know and not to do, is really not to know" I think you create a relationship that feels like 'the one', through mutual understanding, communication, compromise and consistent availability to each other. And it can fall apart once you stop doing those things. I suppose this leads me to a conviction that I have some influence and responsibility for the outcome of a relationship, rather than blaming fate or outside influences when things don't work out, which I see as avoidant behaviour. |
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Post by yasmin on Feb 16, 2018 16:14:28 GMT
I don't think "the one" exists, but I think depending on "the one" you choose, you live a different life and have a different future. Each person will create a different evolution of you, so choose wisely.
I don't believe in fate either. I'd hate to think I had no responsibility for the outcome of my life.
I do believe in love though, but think of it more as a decision than an inescapable feeling, but certain people possess certain characteristics which trigger a feeling of warmth, tenderness and connection.
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Post by BreakingTheSpell on Feb 16, 2018 16:24:19 GMT
I do believe in love though, but think of it more as a decision than an inescapable feeling, but certain people possess certain characteristics which trigger a feeling of warmth, tenderness and connection. I couldnt agree more on this, I also believe it is an every day decision. If the feeling is gone, well I decide to love you anyway and hence I bring the feeling back. Else, we are at mercy of our own emotions, and as you said, sometimes the "feeling of love" is just a trigger of intermittent reinforcement. I had enough of that sh** already. I am reshaping my concept of love from "butterflies in the stomach" and "la vie en rose" to " it is so peaceful to have somebody's trust and affection consistently" and "this person accepts the loving and caring part of me, as well as the coldhearted side". Speaking of FA. |
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Post by Jaeger on Feb 16, 2018 16:40:22 GMT
I love you guys. In a purely platonic sense, ofcourse 😁
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Post by yasmin on Feb 16, 2018 16:53:56 GMT
I do believe in love though, but think of it more as a decision than an inescapable feeling, but certain people possess certain characteristics which trigger a feeling of warmth, tenderness and connection. I couldnt agree more on this, I also believe it is an every day decision. If the feeling is gone, well I decide to love you anyway and hence I bring the feeling back. Else, we are at mercy of our own emotions, and as you said, sometimes the "feeling of love" is just a trigger of intermittent reinforcement. I had enough of that sh** already. I am reshaping my concept of love from "butterflies in the stomach" and "la vie en rose" to " it is so peaceful to have somebody's trust and affection consistently" and "this person accepts the loving and caring part of me, as well as the coldhearted side". Speaking of FA. I'd really love to have that feeling, where I could love and be loved with the WHOLE me, both sides and feel safe in that. I'm working towards it! Jaeger: we love you too dude. |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 16, 2018 18:34:55 GMT
I found it odd that Jeb and others say it's an avoidant trait to believe in the "one". DAs do not consciously want a relationship, so it doesn't flow logically for me. I always thought there wasn't a "one" for anyone and especially not for me, so relationships were never a priority (romantic ones).
I also don't believe that love is a feeling. I always said like is a feeling, love is a choice. The like may go up and down, but the love is always there, it's a constant.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 16, 2018 18:42:19 GMT
i don’t believe at all in the concept of “The One”
i view this as any number of people could be a great match, depending on many factors.
But guys, deep down we all know,
I’m The One.
Sincerely,
God
i am never going to be ok with this. 😣
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Post by Deleted on Feb 16, 2018 19:19:43 GMT
i don’t believe at all in the concept of “The One” i view this as any number of people could be a great match, depending on many factors. But guys, deep down we all know, I’m The One. Sincerely, God i am never going to be ok with this. 😣 If you are THE ONE, then by all means, please disconnect us from this Matrix and let us be born again without this attachment injury bs. I’m working on it, i’m working on it!!! can you stop nagging me? i know you adore me but i need some time for myself. Endless supplication only makes me think of locusts and pestilence and whatnot. this member title is setting me back pretty hard but i brought it on myself with 500 posts. my therapist will be so proud. 😂😬😭😭😭😭😭 |
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Post by Jaeger on Feb 16, 2018 19:34:08 GMT
If you are THE ONE, then by all means, please disconnect us from this Matrix and let us be born again without this attachment injury bs. I’m working on it, i’m working on it!!! can you stop nagging me? i know you adore me but i need some time for myself. Endless supplication only makes me think of locusts and pestilence and whatnot. this member title is setting me back pretty hard but i brought it on myself with 500 posts. my therapist will be so proud. 😂😬😭😭😭😭😭 I think we've just reached the answer to why God doesn't intervene. He (She?) is an avoidant using distancing strategies on mankind. "Would you all just STOP with the constant praying? I told you I need time to myself!" |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 16, 2018 19:43:58 GMT
who told these people to pray without ceasing?!?🤔
oh hold on. i think that was me.🤭
i don’t have the answers, people. I’m just a lost soul on a forum.
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Post by yasmin on Feb 16, 2018 22:04:39 GMT
I’m working on it, i’m working on it!!! can you stop nagging me? i know you adore me but i need some time for myself. Endless supplication only makes me think of locusts and pestilence and whatnot. this member title is setting me back pretty hard but i brought it on myself with 500 posts. my therapist will be so proud. 😂😬😭😭😭😭😭 I think we've just reached the answer to why God doesn't intervene. He (She?) is an avoidant using distancing strategies on mankind. "Would you all just STOP with the constant praying? I told you I need time to myself!" Lol. But God loves us. He/she isn't waiting for "the one" |
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Post by Jaeger on Feb 16, 2018 22:42:21 GMT
I think we've just reached the answer to why God doesn't intervene. He (She?) is an avoidant using distancing strategies on mankind. "Would you all just STOP with the constant praying? I told you I need time to myself!" Lol. But God loves us. He/she isn't waiting for "the one" He loves you but he's not IN love with you. He can't meet your needs like he knows you deserve, so it's better if He left. |
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Post by yasmin on Feb 17, 2018 1:43:21 GMT
Lol. But God loves us. He/she isn't waiting for "the one" He loves you but he's not IN love with you. He can't meet your needs like he knows you deserve, so it's better if He left. Pahahaha |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2018 1:58:39 GMT
He loves you but he's not IN love with you. He can't meet your needs like he knows you deserve, so it's better if He left. Pahahaha God would like you to be still and know that He is God. Just. Be. Still. Ssssshhhhhhhhhhhhh |
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