List of resources, practices and tools to heal

Let's list here what APs can do to work towards becoming more secure and healing our childhood trauma.
This includes (and is not limited to!) addressing anxiety, low self-esteem, negative inner voice, fear of abandonment and many more issues.

Here I'm pasting something I wrote in another thread about the things I am doing:

What has helped me over the years:
- physical activity: perfect way to disconnect and reduce anxiety, to release endorphines and to increase self-confidence
- self-help: learning about attachment theory and different therapies. I especially like Schema Therapy and ACT.
- therapy over time
- opening up to friends and family: this lessens the shame
- meditation/mindfulness: just starting with that, I can't quite tell if it's beneficial yet
- journaling
- inner child talk: limited experience with that, want to do more of it
- not giving up despite the pain. Always pushing forward. Stepping out of comfort zone
- traveling: another way to disconnect and actually be truly myself
- self-compassion: soothing the inner negative talk
- surrender: observing my pain and letting myself feel sad/abandonned without being hard on myself (form of self-compassion)

Interesting resources (books, articles, courses) which increase awareness, understanding, and offer ways to heal:

Books:

- Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1518880524&sr=8-1&keywords=attached
- Love Me, Don't Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_1_11?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=love+me+dont+leave+me&sprefix=love+me+don%2Cstripbooks%2C258&crid=2EASJ9FA4YRSZ
- Insecure in Love: How Anxious Attachment Can Make You Feel Jealous, Needy, and Worried and What You Can Do About It www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_1_9?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=insecure+in+love&sprefix=insecure+%2Cstripbooks%2C248&crid=X5630RU9ZPUE&rh=n%3A283155%2Ck%3Ainsecure+in+love
- Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior and Feel Great Again www.amazon.com/Reinventing-Your-Life-Breakthrough-Negative/dp/0452272041/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1518880689&sr=1-1&keywords=reinventing+your+life
- Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child www.amazon.com/Homecoming-Reclaiming-Championing-Inner-Child/dp/0553353896/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1518881084&sr=8-1&keywords=homecoming+bradshaw
- Taming Your Outer Child: Overcoming Self-Sabotage and Healing from Abandonment www.amazon.com/Taming-Your-Outer-Child-Self-Sabotage/dp/1608683141/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1518881134&sr=1-1&keywords=anderson+outer+child

Articles:

- www.psychalive.org/fear-of-abandonment/
- www.huffingtonpost.com/susan-anderson/how-to-overcome-fear-of-a_b_6988748.html
- www.whatiscodependency.com/emotional-abandonment/
- relationshiprealizations.com/psychotherapy-articles/managing-emotional-triggers-in-new-relationship.htm


Courses/audio books:

- Diane Poole Heller, Healing Your Attachment Wounds www.soundstrue.com/store/healing-your-attachment-wounds-1.html?hatid=102b2844e38c5d992efe9859a48830&partner=1122
- Dan Siegel & Lisa Firestone, Making Sense of Your Life ecourse.psychalive.org/making-sense-of-your-life-ecourse-dan-siegel-lisa-firestone/

Tests:

- Attachment and personality test: yourpersonality.net/attachment/