Post by anne12 on Feb 19, 2018 8:43:36 GMT
A boundary is the:
Emotional and physical space between you and another person.
Demarcation of where you end and another begins and where you begin and another ends.
Limit or line over which you will not allow anyone to cross because of the negative impact of its being crossed in the past.
Established set of limits over your physical and emotional well-being which you expect others to respect in their relationship with you.
Emotional and physical space you need in order to be the real you without the pressure from others to be something that you are not.
Emotional and/or physical perimeter of your life which is or has been violated when you were
emotionally, verbally, physically and/or sexually abused.
Healthy emotional and physical distance you can maintain between you and another so that you do not become overly enmeshed and/or dependent.
Appropriate amount of emotional and physical closeness you need to maintain so that you and
another do not become too detached and/or overly independent.
Balanced emotional and physical limits set on interacting with another so that you can achieve an interdependent relationship of independent beings who do not lose their personal identity, uniqueness and autonomy in the process.
Clearly defined limits within which you are free to be yourself with no restrictions placed on you by others as to how to think, feel or act.
Set of parameters which make you a unique, autonomous and free individual who has the freedom to be a creative, original, idiosyncratic problem solver.
5 Healthy Benefits of Boundary Setting:
1. Contribution to Others' Well Being
2. Freedom From Bad Behavior, Fear or Pain
3. Increased Self Esteem and Self Respect
4. More Respect From Others
5. Requirement for Honest, Direct Communication
5 Guidelines for Setting Effective Boundaries:
1. Back up boundary setting with action.
2. Be direct, firm and gracious.
3. Don't debate, defend or over-explain.
4. Have support easily available on the sidelines in the beginning.
5. Stay strong, don't give in.
Interpersonal boundaries assume four main styles:
Soft/Weak boundaries
Rigid/Inflexible boundaries
Permeable/Porous boundaries
Flexible/Healthy boundaries
You can use many things as protection against proximity / protection against being with your partner. You can use your children, work, computer, television, friends, sports, alcohol, drugs, food and other diversion maneuvers to pull you from the other person. It is usually a reaction, that the other person has overwritten your limits.
Tips:
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/romantically-attached/201608/4-ways-set-and-keep-your-personal-boundaries
www.psychologytoday.com/blog/some-assembly-required/201612/give-yourself-the-gift-self-affirming-boundaries
psychcentral.com/blog/flexible-boundaries-affirming-ourselves-while-staying-connected/
www.recoveryeducationnetwork.org/uploads/9/6/6/3/96633012/boundary_setting_tips__1_.pdf
Emotional and physical space between you and another person.
Demarcation of where you end and another begins and where you begin and another ends.
Limit or line over which you will not allow anyone to cross because of the negative impact of its being crossed in the past.
Established set of limits over your physical and emotional well-being which you expect others to respect in their relationship with you.
Emotional and physical space you need in order to be the real you without the pressure from others to be something that you are not.
Emotional and/or physical perimeter of your life which is or has been violated when you were
emotionally, verbally, physically and/or sexually abused.
Healthy emotional and physical distance you can maintain between you and another so that you do not become overly enmeshed and/or dependent.
Appropriate amount of emotional and physical closeness you need to maintain so that you and
another do not become too detached and/or overly independent.
Balanced emotional and physical limits set on interacting with another so that you can achieve an interdependent relationship of independent beings who do not lose their personal identity, uniqueness and autonomy in the process.
Clearly defined limits within which you are free to be yourself with no restrictions placed on you by others as to how to think, feel or act.
Set of parameters which make you a unique, autonomous and free individual who has the freedom to be a creative, original, idiosyncratic problem solver.
5 Healthy Benefits of Boundary Setting:
1. Contribution to Others' Well Being
2. Freedom From Bad Behavior, Fear or Pain
3. Increased Self Esteem and Self Respect
4. More Respect From Others
5. Requirement for Honest, Direct Communication
5 Guidelines for Setting Effective Boundaries:
1. Back up boundary setting with action.
2. Be direct, firm and gracious.
3. Don't debate, defend or over-explain.
4. Have support easily available on the sidelines in the beginning.
5. Stay strong, don't give in.
Interpersonal boundaries assume four main styles:
Soft/Weak boundaries
Rigid/Inflexible boundaries
Permeable/Porous boundaries
Flexible/Healthy boundaries
You can use many things as protection against proximity / protection against being with your partner. You can use your children, work, computer, television, friends, sports, alcohol, drugs, food and other diversion maneuvers to pull you from the other person. It is usually a reaction, that the other person has overwritten your limits.
Tips:
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/romantically-attached/201608/4-ways-set-and-keep-your-personal-boundaries
www.psychologytoday.com/blog/some-assembly-required/201612/give-yourself-the-gift-self-affirming-boundaries
psychcentral.com/blog/flexible-boundaries-affirming-ourselves-while-staying-connected/
www.recoveryeducationnetwork.org/uploads/9/6/6/3/96633012/boundary_setting_tips__1_.pdf
