Enough crying. Lets laugh

It might be more healing to have a joke about our own dysfunctional relating patterns than our ex partners... and DA/FA are just the other side of the coin to the AP. We all suffered emotionally as children, and had to twist ourselves into a less than healthy shape to emotionally survive the trauma we endured. There's drawbacks to both types, let's be honest. Even if DAs seem to "get off lightly" in the eyes of an AP, they actually don't. It can't be easy living in a world where people spout so much about connection and especially the idealised version of love, when you might struggle to form those things in a healthy way.