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Post by tnr9 on Apr 21, 2018 20:40:55 GMT
I was thinking about something I read about APs being anti "hope" and at first I thought it was wrong...but now I am convinced that it is right. It is as if we want to have hope...but we don't trust it....we don't trust ourselves as being "enough" as we are and as such, we don't trust ourselves and by extension, we don't trust our partner. I am not saying that the partners are blameless...but if we truly felt enough and trusted ourselves...would we select partners who triggered us? What are your thoughts?
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Post by yasmin on Apr 21, 2018 20:47:17 GMT
I don't think anyone with insecure attachment style really thinks they are enough. If they did, I think they would just love and be loved without fear.
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Post by DearLover on Apr 22, 2018 1:38:36 GMT
It makes sense. But I believe we can change this. I am doing it anyway. And I have hope I will achieve it one day.
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Post by leavethelighton on Apr 22, 2018 23:26:03 GMT
I think most APs would say they are ALL about hope and that is the problem and that loving and being loved is the ultimate desire/hope.
But I see your point.
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