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Post by leavethelighton on Apr 23, 2018 0:07:07 GMT
Anyone want to engage in an experiment with me? I haven't done it yet, but I am going to.
Here it is:
spend some time in the next week or two writing out the emails(s)/letter(s)/text(s)/phone call(s)/etc that you wish you had received or were receiving now. That is, pretend you are the person or people you wish would send them, and write them to yourself.
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Questions:
Was it helpful or insightful in some way to do this?
Were you surprised by what you ended up saying?
Was it easy/hard to do and why? What feelings or thoughts did it bring up?
[insert other questions here]
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Post by tnr9 on Apr 23, 2018 17:36:45 GMT
Anyone want to engage in an experiment with me? I haven't done it yet, but I am going to. Here it is: spend some time in the next week or two writing out the emails(s)/letter(s)/text(s)/phone call(s)/etc that you wish you had received or were receiving now. That is, pretend you are the person or people you wish would send them, and write them to yourself. *************** Questions: Was it helpful or insightful in some way to do this? Were you surprised by what you ended up saying? Was it easy/hard to do and why? What feelings or thoughts did it bring up? [insert other questions here] I will do it...I usually come from the opposite vantage point of what I want to send to B so this will be interesting for me as well. 🤔 |
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Post by tnr9 on Apr 24, 2018 1:45:23 GMT
Honestly...I don't know that I can make this work....I have hit a "wall". Seriously....ithe mere suggestion of doing what you asked...even as an experiment feels wrong...it feels fake...it feels manipulative and my entire body went tense and I actually felt a huge resistance within me. I think I am terrified of telling myself what I want to hear because I am terrified of having "hope" that then gets "smashed into a million tiny pieces". It isn't rational...I think I have regressed emotionally to about 5 or maybe 7. I know I have regressed because I am now in uber "protective" mode of B..as in...nothing that I perceive as "hurting him" will get through. It is the most endearing loyalty that a very young girl can come up with. I don't know how your experiment hurts B...oh...I know....that part sees it as lying. Going to have to work up to this.
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Post by leavethelighton on Apr 25, 2018 1:48:25 GMT
Honestly...I don't know that I can make this work....I have hit a "wall". Seriously....ithe mere suggestion of doing what you asked...even as an experiment feels wrong...it feels fake...it feels manipulative and my entire body went tense and I actually felt a huge resistance within me. I think I am terrified of telling myself what I want to hear because I am terrified of having "hope" that then gets "smashed into a million tiny pieces". It isn't rational...I think I have regressed emotionally to about 5 or maybe 7. I know I have regressed because I am now in uber "protective" mode of B..as in...nothing that I perceive as "hurting him" will get through. It is the most endearing loyalty that a very young girl can come up with. I don't know how your experiment hurts B...oh...I know....that part sees it as lying. Going to have to work up to this. Tnr9, thanks for trying and posting. I find this interesting and appreciate someone going along with my thought experiment. My experience so far: I decide I'm going to do this. Oh wait, I need to go get a glass of water first  Okay, down to business... It was weird writing a letter to myself. It was also fun, like this, THIS is what should be said. It did occur to me as I tried to write some things that my perspective would likely not be the other person's perspective-- that they would not use the same words or interpretations of the history. Another interesting thing is I planned on writing multiple letters-- a whole series of letters-- but after about 7 sentences I felt like those 7 sentences were the essence of the wish, and then it was done. But I do suspect this is a writing exercise I'll want to try again when I'm "activated" (or whatever) and then I'll post again here about it. |
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