Post by tnr9 on Apr 23, 2018 18:23:52 GMT
So I have been thinking about the addictive aspect of the AP need for a fix. I remember reading that for secures, they don't have to have an actual presence of the person they have connection with because they can hold that person in their mind and it allows them to stay "connected" while doing their own thing.
Somewhere along the line...instead of feeling connected via a positive memory in my mind, I use other methods that require more instant feedback....such as text messages, instant messager, likes on FB, phone calls etc. But somehow these fixes do not last long as I start to have fears and doubts about whether the other person is genuinely there for me and I start to look for signs of disconnection...and what you look for, you will find. So I start to notice the response times, the likes on other pages, the general distancing as a threat rather than it just being about the other person. It becomes far too personal and desperate with rejevpction hiding behind every silence...until I get another fix. It isn't how I want my relationship to go...these are extremely old patterns that I am simply aware of. What are other individuals experiences?
Somewhere along the line...instead of feeling connected via a positive memory in my mind, I use other methods that require more instant feedback....such as text messages, instant messager, likes on FB, phone calls etc. But somehow these fixes do not last long as I start to have fears and doubts about whether the other person is genuinely there for me and I start to look for signs of disconnection...and what you look for, you will find. So I start to notice the response times, the likes on other pages, the general distancing as a threat rather than it just being about the other person. It becomes far too personal and desperate with rejevpction hiding behind every silence...until I get another fix. It isn't how I want my relationship to go...these are extremely old patterns that I am simply aware of. What are other individuals experiences?
