|
Post by ocarina on Apr 28, 2018 21:10:14 GMT
Thank you for sharing this Anne - the description of being present really rang home to me. I am avoidant - as is my ex partner. Neither of us were able to be present for ourselves - and of course with this missing, the ability to be present in the relationship was also lacking.
I have worked hard on this over the years and am now much more in touch with my emotions and able to be vulnerable but it is still very much a work in progress.
|
|
|
Post by leavethelighton on Apr 29, 2018 0:09:52 GMT
Nice list. This makes me ponder what it means to have a "flexible" boundary.
|
|
|
Post by Jaeger on Apr 29, 2018 1:14:15 GMT
Nice list. This makes me ponder what it means to have a "flexible" boundary. To me, it's the ability to apply one's boundaries differently depending on context, without forgoing them altogether. An example that comes to mind is temporarily downshifting my own needs to care for a sick partner. To me, that had always been the norm, until my last relationship, where I got quite a few hints that my having pneumonia was a great inconvenience and my own fault, basically😉
|
|