Post by tnr9 on May 3, 2018 12:01:29 GMT
So recently I have been paying a lot more attention to "not so subtle" patterns....hoping to grow into a more secure individual...and I noticed that whenever I feel "judged" by others (this is usually perceived judgement versus actual judgement) I want to reach out to B....I want reassurance that it will all be ok. As I am trying to learn to self sooth, I just notice and am curious about the things I do as B replacements...such as, an increased number of visits to this site, an increased number of visits to FB including B's page, a heightened number of abandonment stories (usually a story about B liking someone else)....right now I am simply observing and accepting these activities with no self judgement. What I plan to do in the future is to add in some positive memories from friends, family, my faith that I hope will help to create a more reliable self soothing process. It is my understanding that secures can hold a memory of being loved and that is what allows them to be confident in exploring and not taking things personally. Hoping this works well.
