Who is on the pedastal?

I have seen this play out and think it is an interesting dynamic of insecure attachment.  The idea that "I am so awesome and you should feel amazing to be with me" is just the opposite extreme from "You are so awesome and I will do anything to be with you".  In both extremes we aren't truly seeing ourself or the other person....we are simply projecting our insecurity to either puff up ourself or puff up the other person.  It is a one up/one down dynamic.  In order to address this in me, I am working on my self acceptance and self confidence.  I want my relationships to be a partnership of equals, whether they be friendships or romantic partners.....but the work squarely falls to me in order to achieve this.