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Post by alexandra on Aug 11, 2020 3:42:58 GMT
I recently watched the first season of Cougartown, and the characters all have insecure attachment styles. The main character Jules is incredibly AP and codependent, constantly trying to engulf her teenager son who straight up complains about her bad boundaries to her face. Both her main love interest and her younger colleague best friend are FA characters. Her ex husband is probably DA. Her other best friend seems to be high on the narcissism spectrum though not pathologically NPD. But she's mean, sees sex with her husband as a chore, is incapable of bonding with her baby, and her husband is a submissive AP (but their relationship is stable and so praised by everyone else). And they're all flirting with alcoholism.
I thought there was funny writing when the jokes weren't about normalizing dysfunction and crappy gender and age stereotypes, but most of the show season is about the latter unfortunately.
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Post by attach3d on Aug 12, 2020 12:53:09 GMT
How about Pride & Prejudice? I'd say Mr. Darcy is D-A and Liz is F-A...
Funny how movies can put any two types together and create the illusion of "happily ever after" but real-life has got so many twists and turns even after favorable outcomes are attained.
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Post by AM on Aug 12, 2020 16:33:55 GMT
How about Pride & Prejudice? I'd say Mr. Darcy is D-A and Liz is F-A... Funny how movies can put any two types together and create the illusion of "happily ever after" but real-life has got so many twists and turns even after favorable outcomes are attained. To be truthful, movies about relationships must have Insecure/Insecure unstable dynamic since a movie about happily ever after Secure/Secure would be so boring it would put everyone to sleep in 5 min lol |
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Post by alexandra on Aug 12, 2020 18:08:23 GMT
Funny how movies can put any two types together and create the illusion of "happily ever after" but real-life has got so many twists and turns even after favorable outcomes are attained. Exactly the problem, nail on the head! It then gets normalized for us who are actually insecurely attached and models that for us, then we really don't know better because we probably don't have many secure folks around that we're close to... that's why I'm watching Cougartown now and cringing thinking how younger (AP) women would respond and idealize it. Examples of dysfunction that weren't addressed being all over pop culture when I was younger certainly didn't help shorten my journey to earn secure. |
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Post by alexandra on Dec 4, 2021 19:43:32 GMT
This is a little different because it involves celebrities in movies, but Rita Moreno did an interview at 90 that succinctly describes her (former?) insecure attachment style and what she realized about it in retrospect. That line about sexual chemistry sounds very reminiscent of experiences shared here! Aside from dating Elvis and Marlon Brando lol. amp.usatoday.com/amp/8856982002Moreno said while the “Hound Dog” hitmaker was “sweet,” he was also “boring.” She said the real thrill came when Brando discovered she had been going out with Presley. “When he found out … he started to throw chairs: He was so angry," Moreno said. "It was wonderful. And I just sat there as he threw chairs and yelled and carried on.” Moreno and Brando dated for nearly eight years, and looking back, the actress, who turns 90 on Dec. 11, has called the relationship emotionally abusive.
“There was something there I needed, and I realized that I was still looking for daddy,” Moreno told USA TODAY in June. “My mom had four marriages, and I had stepfathers all over the place, and that was something that was never resolved in my life. So, I always was looking for a person who would accept me on every single level.”While Moreno said she does regret her relationship with Brando, there are aspects of the relationship she wouldn’t take back. “There was an enormous sexual attraction between the two of us; that part of it, I don't regret at all,” Moreno said. “It was an extraordinary experience, and he was an extraordinary man. But he was really just fodder for a neurotic woman like myself at that time.” |
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