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Post by lilyg on Aug 9, 2018 14:19:16 GMT
Just wanted to share that I met with a new therapist tonight. He seems very sharp, specializes in trauma, does EMDR, somatic therapy and talk therapy. I'm really hoping he can help me! Break a leg!  There are some wonderful therapists out there. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 9, 2018 14:21:25 GMT
i wonder, if there are not Attachment Therapists in your area, if any offer video conference sessions from a diatance?
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Post by notalone on Aug 10, 2018 2:03:41 GMT
i wonder, if there are not Attachment Therapists in your area, if any offer video conference sessions from a diatance? There are, and I found some. But this one does EMDR, deals with trauma, and does somatic work, and my friend who is dealing with attachment trauma with him highly recommends him. She cautioned against going with someone without a referral. She does body work for trauma and knows a lot of therapists and said there’s a lot of bad ones. I spoke with 2 other therapists who specialize in attachment that I found online, so I do t know how effective they are. One is a fair bit more expensive and the other one doesn’t do EMDR. I’m not sure what to do. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2018 2:08:32 GMT
i wonder, if there are not Attachment Therapists in your area, if any offer video conference sessions from a diatance? There are, and I found some. But this one does EMDR, deals with trauma, and does somatic work, and my friend who is dealing with attachment trauma with him highly recommends him. She cautioned against going with someone without a referral. She does body work for trauma and knows a lot of therapists and said there’s a lot of bad ones. I spoke with 2 other therapists who specialize in attachment that I found online, so I do t know how effective they are. One is a fair bit more expensive and the other one doesn’t do EMDR. I’m not sure what to do. honestly he sounds like a good prospect!!!! i didn't realize you had a friend recommending, who is familiar with attachment. i may have missed that. but i think this sounds good. yoi have to let us know how it goes! |
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Post by notalone on Aug 10, 2018 2:49:24 GMT
There are, and I found some. But this one does EMDR, deals with trauma, and does somatic work, and my friend who is dealing with attachment trauma with him highly recommends him. She cautioned against going with someone without a referral. She does body work for trauma and knows a lot of therapists and said there’s a lot of bad ones. I spoke with 2 other therapists who specialize in attachment that I found online, so I do t know how effective they are. One is a fair bit more expensive and the other one doesn’t do EMDR. I’m not sure what to do. honestly he sounds like a good prospect!!!! i didn't realize you had a friend recommending, who is familiar with attachment. i may have missed that. but i think this sounds good. yoi have to let us know how it goes! Thanks June-bug ❤️ I will let you know! |
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Post by notalone on Aug 11, 2018 3:54:51 GMT
There are, and I found some. But this one does EMDR, deals with trauma, and does somatic work, and my friend who is dealing with attachment trauma with him highly recommends him. She cautioned against going with someone without a referral. She does body work for trauma and knows a lot of therapists and said there’s a lot of bad ones. I spoke with 2 other therapists who specialize in attachment that I found online, so I do t know how effective they are. One is a fair bit more expensive and the other one doesn’t do EMDR. I’m not sure what to do. honestly he sounds like a good prospect!!!! i didn't realize you had a friend recommending, who is familiar with attachment. i may have missed that. but i think this sounds good. yoi have to let us know how it goes! I’m really struggling with this decision. My friend is working with this therapist and says he’s really effective, and the root of her issues is attachment, but this therapist is not trained in attachment, she started seeing him because he works with trauma and she has experienced tauma, and because he does emdr and somatic work. But everything I read says to work with a therapist who knows about attachment. The thing is if I go with an attachment therapist it would be one I found online, without any referral from anyone I know or trust, so that’s a gamble. |
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Post by notalone on Aug 11, 2018 19:20:24 GMT
So what do you think trauma is? I’m not sure what you’re asking? |
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Post by notalone on Aug 11, 2018 19:21:26 GMT
I decided to try working with this therapist.
I’ll let you know how it goes,
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Post by notalone on Aug 11, 2018 19:40:46 GMT
I’m not sure what you’re asking? Sorry, if I dident myself clear. You wrote: My friend is working with this therapist and says he’s really effective, and the root of her issues is attachment, but this therapist is not trained in attachment, she started seeing him because he works with trauma and she has experienced tauma, and because he does emdr and somatic work.It was a question about how you would define trauma. Trauma can be many different things. (PTSD is a result of trauma). You could have some situational desorganised attatchment. Or trauma from later in life jebkinnisonforum.com/thread/1073/disorganized-trauma-speeder-brake-drama
I understand trauma to to be the the result of a distressing event that causes ongoing challenges with emotion regulation. A response that gets locked in the body. I think you’re suggesting, and asking me if I believe that attachment wounding can be traumatic, and I do. All I was trying to say in my post is that I’d like to work with someone who works with attachment as well as trauma. Some of what has been traumatic to me Is my childhood - I think that’s what’s referred to as little t trauma. Then, when I was 20 my dad died suddenly and my brother developed schizophrenia. My mom became totally depressed and overwhelmed by my brother, and I was my moms only support. It was utter hell. I turned to drugs to cope and was an addict for years. A few years ago i dated a narcissist who abused me and that was indescribable. It ended with him stalking me and me having to get the police involved. So yeah, I think I’ve experienced some trauma. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2018 21:48:58 GMT
notalone i get it, i've done trauma work and attachment work with therapists and they compliment each other but i couldn't address one through the other or vice verse, it's very complex and requires some pinpoint absolute focus on the issues. The trauma healing and progress was fundamental to the foundation i needed for attachment work,, but could not have substituted. if you can get an attachment therapist, do that because it's really important to you. if you don't get a good feel, find another. but, honor that want you have, to work with someone who can guide you specifically about what is breaking your heart.
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Post by notalone on Aug 11, 2018 22:54:23 GMT
notalone i get it, i've done trauma work and attachment work with therapists and they compliment each other but i couldn't address one through the other or vice verse, it's very complex and requires some pinpoint absolute focus on the issues. The trauma healing and progress was fundamental to the foundation i needed for attachment work,, but could not have substituted. if you can get an attachment therapist, do that because it's really important to you. if you don't get a good feel, find another. but, honor that want you have, to work with someone who can guide you specifically about what is breaking your heart. I decided to try this therapist. I met him and had a good feeling. I’m still a bit concerned about the attachment piece, but I want to work with a really good therapist who is recommended, not just someone I find online. Also, I’ve spoken to about 6 attachment therapists and I’m just not sold on any of them. These are the pros and cons of this guy; . Pros -He does emdr -He does somatic therapy -he works with trauma -He comes highly recommended by someone I know -He is 45$ less expensive than the other therapist that does somatic therapy and emdr, who’s trained in attachment -He‘s been in practice for over 20 years -he seems very smart -he seems genuinely passionate about helping people Cons He’s not specifically trained in attachment |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2018 23:01:40 GMT
notalone i get it, i've done trauma work and attachment work with therapists and they compliment each other but i couldn't address one through the other or vice verse, it's very complex and requires some pinpoint absolute focus on the issues. The trauma healing and progress was fundamental to the foundation i needed for attachment work,, but could not have substituted. if you can get an attachment therapist, do that because it's really important to you. if you don't get a good feel, find another. but, honor that want you have, to work with someone who can guide you specifically about what is breaking your heart. I decided to try this therapist. I met him and had a good feeling. I’m still a bit concerned about the attachment piece, but I want to work with a really good therapist who is recommended, not just someone I find online. Also, I’ve spoken to about 6 attachment therapists and I’m just not sold on any of them. These are the pros and cons of this guy; . Pros -He does emdr -He does somatic therapy -he works with trauma -He comes highly recommended by someone I know -He is 45$ less expensive than the other therapist that does somatic therapy and emdr, who’s trained in attachment -He‘s been in practice for over 20 years -he seems very smart -he seems genuinely passionate about helping people Cons He’s not specifically trained in attachment it sounds worth a shot, and if you need attachment specific you can find that down the road. maybe you need some deep trauma work before proceeding, so you can have the most progress with attachment- so just keep open and flexible, it's ok! |
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Post by notalone on Aug 11, 2018 23:08:03 GMT
notalone i get it, i've done trauma work and attachment work with therapists and they compliment each other but i couldn't address one through the other or vice verse, it's very complex and requires some pinpoint absolute focus on the issues. The trauma healing and progress was fundamental to the foundation i needed for attachment work,, but could not have substituted. if you can get an attachment therapist, do that because it's really important to you. if you don't get a good feel, find another. but, honor that want you have, to work with someone who can guide you specifically about what is breaking your heart. I decided to try this therapist. I met him and had a good feeling. I’m still a bit concerned about the attachment piece, but I want to work with a really good therapist who is recommended, not just someone I find online. Also, I’ve spoken to about 6 attachment therapists and I’m just not sold on any of them. These are the pros and cons of this guy; . Pros -He does emdr -He does somatic therapy -he works with trauma -He comes highly recommended by someone I know -He is 45$ less expensive than the other therapist that does somatic therapy and emdr, who’s trained in attachment -He‘s been in practice for over 20 years -he seems very smart -he seems genuinely passionate about helping people Cons He’s not specifically trained in attachment Thanks Juniper. I already scheduled an appointment with him for next week. And now I’m doubting myself again. Argh! I’m the worst at being decisive! Ambivalence is a pain! |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2018 23:18:36 GMT
haha, let me help you.
don't worry, you can't fuck this up.
your appointment is scheduled, how awesome- now call that good enough and do something you enjoy RIGHT NOW.
lol!
good job, no worries.
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Post by leavethelighton on Aug 12, 2018 0:06:42 GMT
I can't help but wonder if someone not trained in attachment could still be immensely useful. You don't need attachment theory to help people recognize patterns of behavior and thoughts that could be challenged and changed, or to help them figure out how to know and then articulate their desires in healthy ways and how to identify which of their relationships are healthy or unhealthy and to make choices about that, or to be able to figure out how someone's youth could affect how they are today, etc. I mean I don't think you necessarily need to know the language to do the work. I would think any therapist could help you work on understanding why you think or act as you do, and how to evolve from that.
I could see if you like the language of attachment theory it could make sense to find a therapist versed in it, but I just can't see how other therapists wouldn't be immensely useful.
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There are some wonderful therapists out there.
