|
Post by happyidiot on Aug 30, 2018 22:33:14 GMT
If someone is highly anxious in general, is that a good indicator they have an insecure attachment style, most likely AP or FA? I don't know whether DAs have much anxiety or not... I do personally know one who has a bit of social anxiety but I think he might be borderline between DA/FA. Are there secure attachers who have much anxiety, let alone enough anxiety to be classified as having an anxiety disorder?
|
|
|
Post by leavethelighton on Aug 31, 2018 1:04:31 GMT
Interesting question. But can't anxiety manifest in ways that don't have to do with relationships (ex: a lot of anxiety about germs or airplanes or fires or something) and thus be irrelevant to attachment styles?
Also I would wonder if anxiety could lead to detachment.
I have to go but interesting questions...
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Aug 31, 2018 1:53:35 GMT
my dismissive partner has general anxiety not related to anxious attachment.
I had serious anxiety related to hyperarousal of PTSD, but that is resolved.
My father is very dismissive and has high anxiety, not related to relationship at all- it's about practical stuff like the roof leaking and stuff like that. his health.
so, no.
|
|
|
Post by happyidiot on Aug 31, 2018 2:18:51 GMT
my dismissive partner has general anxiety not related to anxious attachment. I had serious anxiety related to hyperarousal of PTSD, but that is resolved. My father is very dismissive and has high anxiety, not related to relationship at all- it's about practical stuff like the roof leaking and stuff like that. his health. so, no. So DAs definitely struggle with anxiety too, what about secures?
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Aug 31, 2018 2:25:54 GMT
|
|
|
Post by happyidiot on Aug 31, 2018 2:27:44 GMT
Interesting question. But can't anxiety manifest in ways that don't have to do with relationships (ex: a lot of anxiety about germs or airplanes or fires or something) and thus be irrelevant to attachment styles? Also I would wonder if anxiety could lead to detachment. I have to go but interesting questions... Well, I was thinking more general anxiety as opposed to anxiety about one specific and rare thing like going on airplanes, although I don't actually know if people who get serious anxiety about something like that don't have anxiety in other areas. Sounds like DAs deal with anxiety too, but I'm still curious if it's correlated with insecure attachment styles in general. I feel like having a lot of anxiety could come from the same kinds of causes as insecure attachment.
|
|
|
Post by happyidiot on Aug 31, 2018 2:29:36 GMT
Great link! That study seems to support the idea that generalized anxiety and insecure attachment are correlated. Thanks!
|
|
|
Post by stayhappy on Aug 31, 2018 4:47:17 GMT
I am a secure and I do can feel anxiety but I guess I just handle it in a different way than people with insecure attachment.
|
|
|
Post by happyidiot on Aug 31, 2018 5:29:32 GMT
I am a secure and I do can feel anxiety but I guess I just handle it in a different way than people with insecure attachment. Would you be willing to explain more?
|
|
|
Post by stayhappy on Aug 31, 2018 7:00:20 GMT
I am a secure and I do can feel anxiety but I guess I just handle it in a different way than people with insecure attachment. Would you be willing to explain more? I am at work now but I can explain later
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Aug 31, 2018 9:14:13 GMT
This is an area of interest to me...
Some research showed that participants with insecure anxious attachment style had an enhanced cortisol response to stress, due to the HP (hypothalamic-pituitary-arena) Axis being disrupted through vulnerable attachment at crucial growth time, whereas the avoidant style were not much different from secures. The conclusion here was that subtle underlying disruption in HPA Axis function relates to attachment style.
I.e., that the brain's stress response is messed up particularly for anxious attachment at a very young age.
More to follow ...
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Aug 31, 2018 9:34:56 GMT
There is also some interesting research on the cortisol response (stress hormone) (which naturally fluctuates over a day in even a Secure, but can be influenced by depression, etc) to specific interplay between attachment couplings - and also the difference between men and women in these cortisol responses.
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Aug 31, 2018 9:40:52 GMT
Another research states that: "In line with our hypothesis, attachment avoidance was associated with bilateral HC (Hippocampal Cell density) reduction, whereas attachment anxiety was significantly related to reduced cell concentration in the left HC.
So, in avoidant - both left and right hippocampus (part of the brain for learning and memory) are reduced; in anxious, the left hippocampus is reduced.
|
|
|
Post by stayhappy on Sept 1, 2018 13:48:00 GMT
I am a secure and I do can feel anxiety but I guess I just handle it in a different way than people with insecure attachment. Would you be willing to explain more? There some kind of anxiety that I kind of like to feel. For exempel at my work, at the university. Some level of stress makes my performance better. In relationship I can say that secure people fights too, we get irritade with eachother and we have bad days, we are just humans. But the anxiety I feel is not going to make me afraid that my partner and I are going to break up and I don’t feel like a have to build walls to protec myself eighter... I know that my partner loves me and that we care for eachother. I will feel anxiety because conflicts are stressful but things are going to be just fine.
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Sept 1, 2018 20:19:18 GMT
The key to moving towards Secure is utilising brain plasticity. anne12 has many really helpful anxiety-specific techniques and self-soothing methods. I have also found some NLP-based techniques which are fantastic (wish I'd remembered these during a mega-trigger not so long ago).
In summary - I believe that yes, anxiety underpins the stress reaction / HPA Axis disruption / fight/flight/freeze/fawn response. I also have a belief that the difference between AP/FA and DA is about the relationship power dance...
|
|