Womens feminine/masculine energy, health, hormonel cycle ect

Wilhelm Reich, an Austrian psychoanalyst and Doctor of Medicine was the first to mention 'de-armouring' in the 1900`s. He worked with the physical protection shields that people’s systems build within their bodies for protection and survival. What we call armour. He was the first to really be interested in what happened when sexual energy / life force energy was suppressed
due to fight and flight responses during stress, chock and traumatic experience, tension or ‘armour’ is created in the body. In nature we see animals shaking off these types of shock but us humans we hold on to it due to our social connection nervous system.
When the ventral vagus and social engagement switches off due to a sense of threat or danger, it triggers the nervous system to function on the unsafe side in ‘survival mode’ (fight/flight or freeze). This can lead to dysfunction of the nervous system and inability to relax and be the starting point of many symptoms and diseases. This is why de-armouring is in the category of preventative health. The very root to optimal health.

De-armouring - The Pleasure Temple Method is a body-oriented therapy to transform and clear out the energetic armour and holding patterns we store in our bodies. Armour is created over time by shock, stress, thought-patterns, social programming, repressed emotion and trauma. Even though armour desensitise our experience of life, it is there for a reason. It is developed in the energy body to protect us and to survive.

With de-armouring you can go more directly to resolving the core physical root in a faster way than what most talking therapies can do. Therefore it also needs to be handled and approached with great care, awareness and embodiment.
With the Pleasure Temple de-armouring method and arts we can clear away the physical ‘shield’ when the physical, mental and emotional aspect of our being is ready. This release is the de-armouring process. With the release of these blockages, our bodies' nervous system can return to the important rest and digest state and gain a deeper capacity to feel pleasure, joy and for our life force to run more freely. De-armouring can be both external and internal, both physical, psychological and emotional.
If we don't clear out yhe armour, the side effect of living in constant fear and self-protection can then trigger parasympathetic dorsal vagal shutdown. People feel numb, lethargic and fatigued and never able to fully be in rest and digest mode. So for a lot of people the noticing and feeling part of the brain (which is aware of impulses within the body, as well as the working mind’s thought process) is switched off. This means that conscious decisions can’t be made. The person may feel stuck or ‘frozen’ in some way. This can affect a lot of areas in people's lives and in selected areas of the body where muscular holding patterns occur as physical defence mechanisms—due to the nervous system’s need to shut off and protect from feeling chronic physical or emotional pain.
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This can manifest differently in different people. In the exterior you might feel like repeating patterns or being stuck not able to move forward. Physically when under psychological stress, the psoas muscle, as a core muscle, informs other muscles to be in constant readiness for fight or flight. Tension arises in different parts of the body. For a lot of women it sits in the pelvic area, in the jaw due to clenching, pain around the diaphragm due to contraction from holding the breath, stiff trapezius muscles in the neck and shoulders, around the eyes causing tension headaches and contraction in the throat.

The Pleasure Temple Dearmoring arts is effective to:

Reduce anxiety, panic attacks or fight/flight mode
Regulating and rewiring of the autonomic nervous system
Enhance embodiment and groundedness
Positively impact on depression, unhappiness, and lack of motivation
Heal past abuse, traumas and addictions by working through belief systems and neuroplasticity
Reduce stress, tension, and "unexplainable" physical symptoms
Removing shame and guilt, loss of interest in sex, inability to experience orgasm, and pain during intercourse
Allow the client to learn to fully let go or experience joy and lifeforce flow
Boost body confidence, self-esteem, and trust
Address Vaginismus (involuntary vaginal contractions/closing of the vagina before sex)
Reduce PMS and period pain + normalises the menstrual cycle
Address other sexual, relational, physical dysfunctions

You may not have thought much about it - or been so aware of it - but you are actually teaching a man how to be loved, through your boundaries.
And it's actually quite smart both for you and for him. For you, because you will be satisfied and have your needs met, and for him, because he will figure out how to best solve the task.

Yes, most men with a well-developed masculine side would actually like to be asked a task and not least be able to solve it. They do not mind putting on work gloves. On the contrary, they feel best about having earned a reward and not just getting it served. For them, it is not troublesome (read: YOU are not troublesome because you express your needs).

For a man who is in his feminine side/energy, on the other hand, it will seem awkward if he has to make an effort to listen to you and your needs. But he's not the one to look for either.

What are some typical signs of a feminine man?
He is reticent, unobtrusive, dull, moody, self-absorbed and therefore chooses the easiest solution and wants things his way.
So if, for example, you express your needs to that type of man, it will not be recieved Well.
You're too much work for him and he can not meet your needs.
So this is a good test, this one, that makes the wrong men back off.

You have to show who you are
-  you teach a man how to be loved, through your boundaries. Because it is not good enough for you to be loved, if only because you are sweet, compliant, pleaser-like, self-effacing and preoccupied with him, right?
And a masculine man does not want these qualities either.
He dares to get to know you with everything you contain.
If he dates a representative and polished version of you who is not really YOU, he will not be able to get to know you.
And what is there to fall in love with?
You have to show a man who you are to give him the opportunity to fall in love with you.

But what does it look like, that of setting boundaries? It's not as hard as it sounds. Here is a very typical example:

Get him to take care of your needs
You are on a date with a man who talks a lot and for a long time about himself.
You've probably tried it once or twice.
Maybe you let him talk to be sweet and polite, and since the date is over, he has been sitting on 85% of the conversation time.
It may have been nice enough for him, because he has had his heart lifted. but he has no idea that in all that time he has not gotten to know you and therefore may not be motivated to see you again.
And you have a feeling that you have neither been heard nor seen.

This scenario can be avoided, but it is up to you.
You simply have to interrupt him and start talking about yourself.
A woman would think it was rude, but not a man.
He WANTS to get to know you, because he has turned up for a date.
He's just nervous and is going to sabotage the date.
But you know better.
You know it's important that he gets to know you if he's to connect with you. And you with him.

Similar situation in a relationship scenario:
You need to talk because you connect with your partner by having him listen to you.
If, on the other hand, you do not feel you can express yourself freely to him, you become insecure and it creates stress hormones in your system.

But you say to him: “I just need to tell you about something that has bothered me a little at  my work the last few days. And I do not want you to solve it. You just have to listen. Is it okay with you?"
And then he says (hopefully) yes.

The subject is not dangerous either, as it is not about him. So you are allowed to express yourself in a safe space where he listens and is present, which will be good for your stress level and hormonal system, and he is relieved of the pressure of having to solve a problem.

It's a win-win for both of you.
But he must have clear instructions.
We train our partner all the time by saying what we want and do not want and that is good.
You will be satisfied because you get your needs met in the relationship, and he will be satisfied because he can EXACTLY meet your needs - which meets his needs.
How? Because the man's primary desire is to make you happy, and your primary job is to receive. But you have to tell him what you want.
This is win-win.

An attatchment love coach

Do you clench you teath ?
Then you might want to work with/release your pelvic floor

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Brochmann and Dahl have written a tour-de-force about the biology, anatomy, and reality of the female body, stopping along the way to explain how misinformation and silence about the vagina have been harmful to women over time. The Wonder Down Under makes crucial contributions to the discussion: the book was an instant bestseller that sold out in its native Norway in just three days. Since then it has been acquired by publishers in more than two dozen countries around the world.

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Can you feel it?

Can you feel that your feminine being needs space - that there is space and a world between creator and creature that needs nourishment and care and enrichment now so that it can come alive and be lived
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I notice that this beautyfull flower is opening - some days in full bloom now, but most of the time a little more gently.

There's way too much unrest out there yet that is affecting it.
It affects the flower in terms of whether it can stand fully open and peacefully integrated into its own energy. It's trained to keep its balance and that's ok. Things take time and a strong root network is not built in a day. It takes practice to stand open and unaffected in a new kind of energy. It takes time to let mildness know that it can stand Well without its defense, because it is strong enough in the gentle and pliable to be able to stand without its learned weapons.

The new is not something you can pick up in your surrounding field. It's something you have to learn within yourself. It's something you have to unlearn and then re-learn. You must learn to integrate even the smallest small means into your being, action and the observer - IN YOUR LIVED LIFE. Small tools that turn everything around and make you softer and more flexible. It is to give life to and water something in you that you can help to rise and become strong and viable. The things that was, must step aside a little, so that something new may become an extension of you.

Maybe your flower is lying down because it has been trampled on and stepped down by big boots every time it has risen just a little. But you see it now. You feel that it is calling to you and you know that it is only with a strong version of it that you can make it really good 🙏

Protect it and nurich it.
Not by putting up wire fences and shooting with sharp.
No, give it a voice and let it be heard. Tell from the heart. Tell us about what crushes it and what enriches it. Let it be all. Let it be what it needs to be, by listening and trusting in the value of everything. It knows how to bring itself back to life and release its armor layer by layer. Along with it, you will wake up and live the being that is the most natural part of you and in harmony with your soul and spirit 🌸

A heart worker ❤️

Brain fog

DO YOU (ALSO) FIND IT HARD TO FOCUS AT THE MOMENT?

I forgot a reflexology appointment yesterday. Otherwise I never do.
The other day there was a word I could not remember right there in the middle of a conversation. And now I can not remember what the word was either. I feel a bit like I'm walking around in a bubble.
There's even a name for it: Brain Fog.
For a brief moment, one may get nervous about whether something is completely wrong, but typically it is about hormones (menopause, teenagehood and pregnancy), sleep (or rather lack of the same), stress (just take the last few years for us all) and diet as the main causes. Because like all other parts of the body, our brain needs flow and fuel to function optimally.

It was Kathleen Baird-Murray, the beauty editor at Vogue UK, who first opened my eyes to Ancient + Braves MCT oil. Add a teaspoon to your coffee - it's focus on bottle, she said, letting the clarity of the brain be as natural a part of your beauty as the clarity of the skin. Since then, I found out that MCT is a solid ingredient in the daily lives of a wide range of successful personalities, from Halle Berry, Blake Lively and Miranda Kerr to Emma Stone and Huda Kattan, who, as she says, is' obsessed with True MCT Oil for my daily morning drinks. Helps with weight loss, memory and keeps me energized ’. Feed your brain like you feed your skin MCT oil is instant fuel for body and brain

Eat extra berries, pomegranate seeds, plums and dark green vegetables if you want to give your brain the best conditions.
Also, make sure that your intestinal system is in flow. It is your second brain and the whole premise for your body to function. Fermented foods, teas, probiotics and not least Manuka honey are my favorites.

And then I always resort to a few de-stressing rituals when I feel like now where I forget everything around me.
Often, brain fog can also be about us having too much to do.
These rituals are easy to follow.
Find a carefully selected essential oil, an original Japanese uka kenzan scalp brush and use acupressure at a very special point that promotes memory and clarity.
Just to name a few examples

A health coach, beauty expert

www.theguardian.com/society/2021/oct/10/menopause-brain-the-inability-to-think-clearly-is-not-all-in-your-mind

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