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Post by anne12 on Apr 29, 2021 5:30:43 GMT
In my own relationship the problem with the dance between the feminine - masculine showed up after 10 years and we had a big crises. As a femininst - I dident take being feminine too seriously, even if I know a lot about feminine- masculine polarity as an attatchment-se-love coach. I always looked at the feminine as kind of weak and without real power. I did not think the femine was powerful but was seeng it as beeing too passive, martyr victim like and weak. So I had to adjust my own behavior in my relationship in order to make it work. My latest transformation was an erotic awakening. (I have always been very sexually active in my life and I have passed menopause) The inner woman gives sexuality a much larger dimension and meaning. To the inner woman the erotic becomes spiritual and creative. Your inner woman is the one who makes the man treat you like the queen that you really are. - he will fall in love with you - be crazy about you - would take care of you - will commit - love you infinitely It's about gender identity and the erotic energy. If you grew up with the fact, that the dance between the feminine and the masculine was not very good between your parents, you may have missed having learned the dance steps. Or if you have experienced overwhelming situations later in your life, you may have shut down to dare to get in touch with her No matter at which stage you are in your relaitonship, you may therefore stumble, step on the other person's toes or even get trampled on your own toes, even if you are in the secure/almost secure form of attachmentstyle. Your inner woman, the pridorminal woman is wise, powerful, creative, playful, laughing, lively, lovely and easy going. She is not passive at all. She keeps her heart open no matter what happens - jebkinnisonforum.com/thread/3080/living-life-open-heart Some of the things you can do: - you can dress feminine - you can recieve with grace - you can be happy, smile and laugh This will the masculine love and be attracted to But if you are to manage this with the cognitive part of the brain, it requires that you are conscious It will only go well as long as you are wellregulated and are feeling on top of things. The moment you become insecure, feel pressured, are triggered, are stressed out, or maybe when you just relax, your regular pattern will take over Therefore, you rarely can control this from your cognitive part of the brain. It's about being feminine from the primal part of your brain. (You can go in and out of the masculine because you also need to keep a household together, take care of your children, and set goals in your daily life at work ect.) I helped a client moving from ambivalent attatchmentstyle into secure attatcment style. We also had to work with her inner devine feminine women. With the primal part of her brain. She went from being over-responsible to becoming queen in her own life. She was already feminine. But when she went into a relationship with a man, she took over-responsibility in the relationship, took a lot of the initiative ect. Her own mother had been a pleaser and had been over-responsible in relation to her father. Her mother took too much responsibility at home, with the kids, in the household ect., while her father had the freedom to concentrate on his work, go out with his male friends and go on guy trips and play sports. During the therapy sessions she came in contact with her inner little playfull feminine girl, she had been, when she was a child - and this among other things, changed her from being over resposible to being receptive, playfull, rbeing able to rediate with her feminine energy in her daily life ect. |
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Post by anne12 on May 1, 2021 5:38:37 GMT
There are different ways to release your inner divine woman, depending on when and how she was shut down: - Clean other people's energies out e.g. out of the vagina if you have had one or more unconscious or self-absorbed lovers/partners - aesthetics - beautiful things, flowers, scents ect. - healing through energy exercises - trauma healing (stress or different kind of traumas) - arouse the erotic energy - rituals - self-pampering - be in nature - movements and dances - to be together with other females in a female community - breathing (yin brehathing - breathe all the way down to your sex/your pelvic floor / yang breathing - breathe from your sex up into your heart) - (when having sex you can use the yin breath as a woman and the man can use the yang breath). Notise your energy field after the breathing exercise. - pleasure, especially bodily pleasure -self-touch, breast massage, spaday ect. jebkinnisonforum.com/post/37829/- finding pleasure tips jebkinnisonforum.com/post/37864/- oxytocin tips |
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Post by anne12 on Jul 2, 2021 16:48:45 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2021 17:23:07 GMT
There are different ways to release your inner divine woman, depending on when and how she was shut down: - Clean other people's energies out e.g. out of the vagina if you have had one or more unconscious or self-absorbed lovers/partners - aesthetics - beautiful things, flowers, scents ect. - healing through energy exercises - trauma healing (stress or different kind of traumas) - arouse the erotic energy - rituals - self-pampering - be in nature - movements and dances - to be together with other females in a female community - breathing (yin brehathing - breathe all the way down to your sex/your pelvic floor / yang breathing - breathe from your sex up into your heart) - (when having sex you can use the yin breath as a woman and the man can use the yang breath). Notise your energy field after the breathing exercise. - pleasure, especially bodily pleasure -self-touch, breast massage, spaday ect. jebkinnisonforum.com/post/37829/- finding pleasure tips jebkinnisonforum.com/post/37864/- oxytocin tips I love all your tips so much. Ive been getting together with women more, in my social group. It feels so great! And getting back into a regular massage routine. More self care. Very nourishing. |
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Post by anne12 on Jul 6, 2021 10:19:00 GMT
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Post by anne12 on Jul 14, 2021 7:39:43 GMT
A womans life force expires if she does the same meaningless tasks, day after day after day
A woman just does not make a very good beast of burden. There is no question that she is capable of working hard and accomplishing a lot, but it will feel like living death unless her heart, spirit, mind, and body are fed.
The food for the heart, spirit, mind, and body of woman?
A daily diet of crazy. With a side of peculiar, a touch of wild, and a heaping dose of eccentricity. Really. No joke.
It means she has to say “yes” to her outrageous longing, and run towards whatever calls her
It means she has to stand inside her beauty – and insist on it – no matter what befalls her.
It means she has to explore her joy, as if it mattered to her, in a world that teaches her the opposite.
She has to re-learn spontaneity.
Act on her truth, rather than other people’s expectations.
Risk living her dreams, despite all that could go wrong.
Flirt her way behind every velvet rope that tries to restrain her.
In fact, the only way to have an utterly and completely gratified life is to be crazy.
To take risks.
To stand for what truly matters.
To vault over obstacles.
And run like a fury towards whatever you love most. Every single day of your life with all your heart
And I know women like I know myself. If she is not unleashed, she is missing the best parts of being alive.
So, in the spirit of pleasure research…would you like to do an experiment with me?
Let’s go a little crazy today.
Here is a list of seven utterly wild options that might fall outside the lines of what you normally consider ‘de rigueur.’:
Slip off your panties. Right now. Leave them home, or in your purse. See how ‘our little secret’ impacts your day.
Whether you are married or single, go up to someone you have a crush on, and tell them.
Stand on your desk, sing out loud, and duet with your favorite artist!
Take a few minutes to primp, right now. Gloss up, fluff up, throw on some sexy low boots and a biker jacket, and take control of the world’s stage.
Make a list of three activities that you loved when you were five years old. Picnic in the park? Swings and slides? Ice skating? Ice cream? Crayons and paper? Digging for worms? Dress up? Call in sick and take a Retro-Pleasure Day for yourself.
Dress inappropriately for an activity. Wear a Halloween costume as you walk your dog. Wear a bikini under your work clothes. Put on rhinestones at your home office, or when you do housework.
Meet up with a gang of girlfriends and praise the sh*t out of each other.
You. Me. We have only one sweet, small life.
I want you to know that as a woman, the sanest thing you can do is invest in your ecstasy.Throw your saddle astride the unknown and take that ride into the land of your dreams and desires.
Crazy is where a woman’s truest sanity lives, and the world needs more of
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Post by anne12 on Aug 14, 2021 1:44:00 GMT
Do you have a prolapse in your vagina ?
Maybe a stage 3-4 prolapse ?
Your v a g i n a is your responsibility. No one else’s. Not your partners. Not your doctor/practitioner. And how truly connected are you to your internal landscape?
It’s your responsibility to have a deeply connected relationship to your body. It is your responsibility to be putting your fingers inside your v a g i n a on a daily basis. Not to feel for abnormalities. But to be so deeply in tune with your p u s s y that IF a prolapse happens you know at stage 1.
Prolapses are progressive in the body. A prolapse that is felt as soon as a shift and heaviness happens can 100% be brought back into alignment. And you don’t have to have had a v a g i n a l birth to have a prolapse. Prolapse can happen after a csection. And it’s even becoming more and more common in teens.
Prolapses are a direct sign of our disembodiment and disconnection from our bodies.
Stage 1 prolapse is when we start to feel a heaviness in our pelvis/vigina we never felt before. Stage 2 is when we feel tissue/a bump inside our vigina that was never there before. Stage 3 is when we see tissue at the opening of our vigina. Stage 4 is when tissue is on the outside of our vigina.
All prolapses are 100% correctable when we notice them at stage 1/2. And that comes down to embodiment and a real relationship to our p u s s y. Because prolapses do happen. But it is our responsibility to feel the shift and start working with our bodies as soon as something feels off.
You can book a vuelva and vagina mapping session with a trained expert.
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Post by anne12 on Sept 16, 2021 8:15:21 GMT
When I do coaching, I often use Walk’n Talk as a tool.
1) Walk’n Talk creates movement forward, side by side. I become harmless and the person is more free to speak unhindered from the heart
2) Especially for Males, it is productive to move the feet. That's what he's designed for. He simply thinks better after movement.
3) For the females, it is often seen that she needs to sit down, next to each other, when we have to talk about what really touches her. There I am ‘on her side’ and by sitting down side-by-side she begins to produce oxytocin, the attachment hormone which is the females primary fuel.
These are just some of the non-verbal tools I use fully consciously in every coaching.
A coach and bodylanguage expert
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Post by anne12 on Sept 21, 2021 13:19:09 GMT
Close to me youtu.be/H1uEo11OPmMA mature couple has been out to eat, had some wine, looked each other in the eyes, and a wonderful moment has arisen. A crack in everyday life and routines. They laugh and flirt and fall over on the bed and kiss. Jo’s husband, Rob (played by Christopher Eccleston), then goes straight to the point, pulling the panties off her and put his hand down between his wife’s legs. Here he discovers that she is not wet and that the sudden touch hurts her and then says something along the lines of: "I think we will need the good old…", while he finds a tube of lube. Vaginal dryness is definitely not something we usually see treated in popular culture. It's more something that girlfriends whisper to each other or do discrete google searches on. In any case, I have never seen the subject covered on TV before, maybe a little with Samantha in ‘Sex and The City’, but not quite down in the panties as with the scene in ‘Close to me’. In porn, women are almost always poked and pushed into lube as something naughty and part of a game, while there is a whimsical contrast between the non-needs of young porn models and the very tangible needs of mature women for add moisture. Back to ‘Close to me’ where Rob asks Jo if he should lubricate and she says no, gets embarrassed and angry and starts lubricating herself. And cut. The opportunity has passed and we sense that there will be no more hanky panky happening that night. But what would have happened if the two people had given themselves a little more time and space for the new vulnerability that has moved into their love life? If Rob had been less busy, if Jo had felt less wrong. If they had a language for what Jo is experiencing? Menopause is a 10-year period in all women's lives, where everything changes physically, mentally, bodily, but which is still invisible and taboo, and that is why it is so important that a beautiful, strong, sexy woman like Connie Nielsen takes menopause with her. into h this TV series Connie Nielsen herself has said in interviews that she thought it was important to show a woman's menopause. For Jo is a woman in crisis, but she is also a woman in transition from one phase to the next. We feel her pain over the children moving away from home. That she is suddenly in the grandmother category. She fills, like so many other mature women, her newfound time with book club, girlfriends and volunteer work, while at the same time she mourns a disappearing desire and misses a look at herself that she has been used to in the first part of his female life. She fantasizes about young men. About sudden sex and surprising lust while lying sweaty and sleepless at night, rejecting her husband's slightly clumsy touches. youtu.be/H1uEo11OPmM |
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Post by anne12 on Oct 12, 2021 18:42:17 GMT
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Post by anne12 on Oct 22, 2021 7:19:31 GMT
In both meno pause and under menstruation getting rest is non negotiable. As a woman take space to rest, breathe, pause - even if your partner, your workplace, the society, the world don’t agree and don’t understand yet. Start with 1% and take 10 min. to breathe, let your partner take care of the kids, find a quiet place and eat lunch by yourself at work, take a long bath at the end of the day ect Show yourself and other women that it is okay to take breakes and to take care of and to nurish yourself Then 1% can become 5%, 10 %, 50 %……or take a whole day or two off from work! discovery.rsm.nl/articles/475-blog-menstrual-health-must-be-in-government-and-employer-policies/ |
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Post by anne12 on Oct 26, 2021 7:52:51 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Oct 26, 2021 14:09:20 GMT
youtu.be/mMXCeFhExrQIN THIS 11 MINUTE VIDEO, JOHN REVEALS SOME OFTEN SECRET DESIRES MEN ARE WANTING, BUT RARELY ASK FOR. This is such a fantastic talk. I can clearly see that my boyfriend needs these things. I haven't heart this man before but I really loved this. |
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Post by anne12 on Nov 2, 2021 17:24:01 GMT
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Post by anne12 on Nov 3, 2021 6:16:30 GMT
jebkinnisonforum.com/post/43870/How to get more Lust/desire Desire / unwillingness Do you have as much desire as you want to have ? It's about creating desire in your life. To feed your lust/desire energy - not your craving You can nourish your feminine energy / your masculine energy You can build up the sexual energy with yin breathing (yang breathing) Look at what drains your desire? 1) Stress drains your lust/desire 2) When you yourself or others exceed your limits - e.g. you have sex even if you do not want to 3) Anger 4) Grief If you do not stand by your limits, organic anger arises in your system Tip: 3 times a week have a sex date with yourself Give yourself self-pleasure 30 min in a delicious room, with music, candels, sentcandles ect. Touch yourself in a sensual/sexual way - do NOT use a vibrator Use the last 5 min to integrate Music sugesstions - youtu.be/k3Fa4lOQfbA- Sexual healing - youtu.be/rjlSiASsUIsThis is expecially important for women but also for men It will also nurish your couples relationship
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