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Post by charlii on Jan 24, 2022 22:46:39 GMT
So wait you feel this is a DA person? or you mean the person was FA but a DA at the end....I I was wavering. I'm not worried at all bc I really don't think he will contact me ever again tbh. The way the texting went at the end..pretty sure. AT the gym now  |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 24, 2022 22:49:40 GMT
So wait you feel this is a DA person? or you mean the person was FA but a DA at the end....I I was wavering. I'm not worried at all bc I really don't think he will contact me ever again tbh. The way the texting went at the end..pretty sure. AT the gym now  No, his type doesn't matter at all to me. I'm just suggesting that you do what this DA (me) would do- and cut ties.  |
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Post by charlii on Jan 25, 2022 1:56:08 GMT
Thanks I am going to have to . I'm doing alright but Im pretty upset like a constant uneasiness.
Sometimes I wonder how I missed all this.
Or you start to wonder how did they ever feel or how long whatever they were feeling was really going on. I just don't. get the non-communication bc things happen but be honest to make a bad situation better or easier.
I. just know I would never do it to someone else
And then ofc waiting for the other shoe to drop of going out of filling that emotional void w someone else, will burn. Taking the lessons they learned w you to better it for the next person, drives me nuts
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Post by Deleted on Jan 25, 2022 2:26:47 GMT
Thanks I am going to have to . I'm doing alright but Im pretty upset like a constant uneasiness. Sometimes I wonder how I missed all this. Or you start to wonder how did they ever feel or how long whatever they were feeling was really going on. I just don't. get the non-communication bc things happen but be honest to make a bad situation better or easier. I. just know I would never do it to someone else And then ofc waiting for the other shoe to drop of going out of filling that emotional void w someone else, will burn. Taking the lessons they learned w you to better it for the next person, drives me nuts FWIW, it's a very common concern for AP that their ex will move on to be better for someone else. It's been talked about extensively on the boards- alexandra has covered that to perfection on other threads. It's not likely at all that he will do better with the next one, morphing into the best boyfriend ever lol! He will repeat his patterns- not the first or the last time he will have to face his limitations. But that's just another distraction from the inner work that you will need to do to make sure that you don't repeat your own (self)defeating relationship pattern. Hang in there and keep studying about your blind spots. |
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Post by charlii on Jan 25, 2022 3:09:19 GMT
I know.. bc I told him it all repeat lol. Deep inside do know that. I dont even like thikning about it. Because he moves so slow, it won't be s short term thing. And in the beginning will seem to good to be true.
He told me this problem will be affecting his entire life...and he doesn t know how to fix it.
For some reason he feels he can't pretend around me.
But I am working on myself each day.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 25, 2022 3:16:36 GMT
I know.. bc I told him it all repeat lol. Deep inside do know that. I dont even like thikning about it. Because he moves so slow, it won't be s short term thing. And in the beginning will seem to good to be true. He told me this problem will be affecting his entire life...and he doesn t know how to fix it. For some reason he feels he can't pretend around me. But I am working on myself each day. Good for you! The beginning is always good, doesn't matter. You'll have your fresh start, in the meantime it's just getting through this breakup. Keep on keepin on. |
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