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Post by mrob on Feb 7, 2018 6:14:35 GMT
Maybe. Just a little  I posted that because there are two sides to any relationship, and I thought it might be helpful to show what could be the other side. The dance is painful from both sides. That’s why I called it. I could see she was going through a different, more intense pain in the dance than me. I'm really glad you shared. It was awesome that you owned your part and could express that it is painful. When i read these posts, it seems that avoidants just end things and that's that. No looking back. No missing the person. No emotion. No caring. If that's the case, I do envy the ability to do that. Not being an expert, I think that's the difference between a DA and an FA. It can look similar but comes from a very different basis of self esteem. There are aspects of the recent relationship I miss. I know I'm no good for her. It's really strange. I'm sad and relieved at the same time. I really miss my ex wife. I've never missed anyone like that. Plenty of emotion, but I keep it to myself though. She deserves to get on with her life. That's the screwed up way I show love. I respect people's space and their ability to run their life as they please. It looks like I don't care, but the very opposite is true. |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 7, 2018 16:04:20 GMT
Mrob, My ex sounds similar to you. She tried over and over, but said she just didn't have it in her to try anymore. She cannot handle conflict. As a result, this shut down communicating and problem-solving, which led to arguing and stonewalling. She has "Sometimes I don't think I'm good for you." I don't understand, if arguments plagued your relationship, why don't you stop arguing with her? |
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